i told him that i dont want anything, but he got something anyways (he didnt tell me what)
--the reason i dont want anything is because i hate feeling like i NEED to get something for him also. like i feel obligated to.
so... what should i get him for christmas (bc he already got me something) and, how can i tell him not to get me gifts anymore without telling him the reason why...????
2006-12-03 03:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by brookbabe90 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not obligated...people buy gifts because they want to...if they are doing it so they'll get something in return, they don't deserve anything and you can bet they won't buy you anything in the future (problem solved).
However, few people listen to the "you don't need to buy me anything" line..so either don't buy him anything and don't feel guilty...or pick out something you think he'll like...you know him, we don't.
What you might do in the future is suggest cooking a meal together or mutual massages or something y'all can do for each other in lieu of purchasing gifts...
2006-12-03 03:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him a card and let it go. You were honest with him and told him you didn't want anything. He still had the option of getting you a gift, and may just be excited by the fact he did get you something. If he is expecting a gift, getting just the card will show him you mean what you say. When you open the gift, either say thank you and let it go if it is not very expensive, or if it is expensive say thank you but tell him you can't accept it because it is too much and it's inappropriate for you to accept that kind of gift. Either way he'll get the message if you do it nicely.
2006-12-03 11:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brook - sorry there is no other way to get around the truth. I would tell him how you feel. And you shouldn't feel obligated to buy him something - especially when you have told him not to. If it bothers you that much - break it off with him. Otherwise - talk with him about it. If he cares for you he will repsect your wishes. If he doesn't expect anything in return - then just enjoy him wanting to buy you things. Lucky you!
2006-12-03 11:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wanted to get you a gift. Some are like this. I'm one of those people. But I don't expect them to get me one in return. Do as you feel you want to. Either get him a gift which would be something you know he's interested in or don't get him a thing.
2006-12-03 11:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get him anything. Gifts should not be given with the expectation of getting something back. If you don't reciprocate, chances are, next Christmas, if he's still around, he will actually listen when you tell him you don't want to exchange presents.
2006-12-03 11:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get him anything. Give him a card. That should say it all without having to say anything! :)
If you REALLY feel the need to get him SOMETHING though, make him a plate of Christmas cookies.
Take care & best of luck!!
2006-12-03 11:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by oracle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice ,tell him you are not buying gifts this year and if he still wants to give you a gift ,the only thing to do is except it, give from the heart ,because that's what you really want to do, not because someone gave you something
2006-12-03 11:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy u get something some guys don't even buy a gift for xmas for their girls and here u are complaining
Get him something he could u or u think he will appreicate
2006-12-03 11:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by tutsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the most obvious thing is to NOT get anything for him. You told him you didn't want anything so he shouldn't expect anything from you.
I know that it doesn't seem right to you, but who is in charge of your actions - you or him?
2006-12-03 11:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by David74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shood always get ur boyfriend a gift even if he never gets u one! don't be lazy, and also, u shoulde get him something that isn't to big or expensive, give him something that tells him i love you.......um like maybe take him somewhere or sumthin idk
2006-12-03 11:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋