THis is the time of year we spend with family . I hate that I have to be around my in laws cause for 1 my mother in law loves to make me the butt of her racial comments just as she did for Thanksgiving.I love my husband & want to make him happy but I'm dreading going to the house of hell for the holidays.He knows how I feel & I try to remain calm around them when they are so nasty but this year I don't think I can be calm cause enough is enough.Help!
2006-12-03 02:57:56 · 5 answers · asked by "karma" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hate it that anyone should be placed in this position.Do you/will you have children? Will you and your husband allow them to be the brunt of racial slurs? What is wrong with your husband that he would allow his precious wife to be treated in this despicable manner. Someone needs to tell the boy to "man up" and take care of his own...his Mommy will get over it.
2006-12-03 06:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by nin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If interested in the truth, yes it is over rated, but also a system that turns. And in every family we will hear, see and feel this day coming. "Chistmans". How you begin that day and what is grows into might be an approach you would consider. Gift$, Jesus?, Decorations!, Gift$, Jesus?, Decorations!, Gift$, Jesus?, Decorations!, Gift$, Jesus?, Decorations!, these are the three that reign on this day. Money we never have enough. Jesus which includes many beliefs, and decorations which combine the two money for all the blinging ornaments and money for all the sybolic (religous) stuff. Be frugal in you spendings and you won't spent alot, be honest in your belief to stay true to yourself when giving expect to receive and not to receive in return. When the years have gone by you will see personally how you have grown on that day "Christmas"
2006-12-03 11:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by speeqtruth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time that you and you husband have a frank and honest talk with this woman. Your husband should stand up for you and tell her that she needs to be respectful of you as you are his wife. If she can not, then she should be told that you will no longer be visiting her for the holidays. She needs to grow up and take responsibility for her actions. Your husband should also support you in this!
Hope it helps! I know my aunt always takes a Valium before she has to go visit her in laws, but don't tell anyone I told you that! :)
2006-12-03 11:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it..the holidays are stressful enough without the added burden of spiteful in-laws or rude family members.
I've had my share over the years, none of us are immune to their spiteful remarks towards our spouses, kids or even ourselves. My final straw, I decided I had had enough, so I told them all as I roared out of sight...Merry Christmas to all and to all a Good Bye! I refused to go to their homes during the holidays, we had our own NEW family tradition. We went to family picnics and/or reunions. We delivered packages prior to the holidays and we invited family member to our home, one-on-one, so the slurs and derogatory remarks were for our ears only, and to be quite truthful, they almost stopped altogether because no one there cared to hear about it. Have a Happy Holiday and try to relax as much as possible, the rest of the year you can dwell on the petty stuff
2006-12-03 11:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should, try agreeing with them, give them the gift THEY WANT TO GET. try being nice, and do not anoy them.
2006-12-03 11:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by girlyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋