A lot of the time i feel like i'm bending over backwards to relate. I have gone into my shell a lot since highschool and now at university. I always been one to avoid conflict, whilst throwing away my true emotions. It is not all the time i need to put on this mask of 'great happiness', though i wish to just be myself. I wonder how many people feel the same about themselves...How do you deal with the lonliness of not being able to be yourself?
2006-12-03 01:36:51 · 9 answers · asked by jiven85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You created this prison for yourself and only you can break out of that self imposed jail.
Just start being yourself, live your authentic self. Read what you want to read (don't ignore your studies, though!), go to the movies you want to see, drink what you want to drink, wear what you want to wear, live your life in tune with your own inner clock. Make small steps at first, figure out what you really like and that might take some experimentation if you've lived a life of repression.
2006-12-03 01:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough living like that...I know firsthand what that's like. What you've gotta do is take small steps. Gradually start doing things that ordinarily scare the crap out of you. If you fail, the worst thing that can happen is you end up right back where you started. Then, if you try again, it doesn't seem so nerve-racking.
The hardest part is fighting the urge to retreat. A few deep breaths can take care of that. And don't worry about having to put on a happy face. Whatever you're feeling, let it show. Bottling up your emotions is not healthy. Don't worry so much about what everyone else thinks.
2006-12-03 01:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always avoid conflict. And you will not always be happy. It is part of life. Most people who feel that they have to put on a mask, do so because they feel that if they are themselves no one will like them. I am sure you are a nice person and very likable. Just be yourself. You may want to join a fraternity. It is a good way to build friendships and help you get out of your shell. Just find something that you are interested and get involved. You may want to find a classmate with whom you can study. If you cannot bring yourself to get out of your shell, you may want to consider getting professional help. However, from your posting, I think all you really need is someone to talk with whom you can relate.
2006-12-03 01:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Flyby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you feel so lonely. I also try to avoid conflict, although I do continually try to put myself out there a little more all the time by taking a chance on saying what I think very carefully. So, I suggest you try to be yourself a little more each day. You will feel so much better for at least trying.
2006-12-03 01:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me when I feel lonely I try to talk to my friends or I just talk a long nap to relax my body. Also you shouldnt try to hide who you really are. If you arent happy then let people see it so then they can help you improve your life. Conflict is ALL around us.. high school, college, work, home etc. You cant hide from it forever!!! Just be yourself and soon you'll be able to be happy. You have to live your life or your gonna be lonely forever. Make yourself happy not others. You come 1st before your friends, your family & before your a bf/gf. Just take a few deep breaths and get back out there.
2006-12-03 01:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by queenpravato 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way too alot of the times first of all because im so shy in frong of others. And second of all because im too busy trying to make my son and my hubby happy and let them do all the things they want to do and enjoy. It sucks to feel this way but im that kind of giving person who hides her real feeelings from others so everyone else can be happy. I guess noone really cares or sees how im feeling. So i guess i will continue to make them happy and maybe someday i will be able to enjoy myself. So yes i can relate to your feelings.
2006-12-03 01:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be youself and screw what ppl think It is your life!!! enjoy it. I learned a long time ago that you can't impress everyone and even if you go out of your way to try to be what everyone wants you to be in the end it still gets you nothing but misery so if they don't like the real you then screw them...Good luck
2006-12-03 01:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt only my whole live, it was all in my heard, i never my feeling to anyone.
i go to the movies by myself, shop, i do everything by my self.
it okay that is what i say to myself alot.
things like this make me love myself, do things i want to do for me. little by little whenu feel that u don't need anybody that's when people start coming in in your live.
GO TO SOME CLUBs IN UR SCHOOL. something u like, in the club u will work with other students in project and u will meet people there. ONE OF THE MILLION WILL TURN OUT TO BE A GREAT FRIEND.
try clubs in ur your, if u don't like one go to the next and u will finally find one that u will like.
2006-12-03 01:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do something exiting like, snowboarding, shooting at a range, racing in a sprint race. Getting my adrinaline pumping always clears my head of any "lonely" thoughts...
2006-12-03 01:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋