Please read the whole thing. I got rid of my facebook (myspace) a week ago without telling my friends at school, who were really excited and happy that I decided to get one. Now they seem po'ed at me. Should I have said something? I thought about it but I onestly thought it would be arrogant of me to think they cared that much. I don;t know though they seemed po'ed before this, I wonder if they thought I was arrogant because I added a lot of friends. I guess I could either apologize, put it back up, act like nothing happen, let it fade away. I honestly thought they would figure out that I got rid of it and they never asked me. I had expected them to ask and then I would tell them. The screwy thing is I'm trying to get to become better friends with these people and I don't know if this screws it up. I also have incredibly low self esteem and social anxiety disorder so I guess I could be misinterpreting anger, like I do a lot, but now they have reason to be pis sed. To be fair, it might look like i took them off my friends list. But I figured they all would have figured it out by now now that I'm on nobodys. And I got invited to be in an internet school group but got rid of it without replying first. I mean I'd consider putting it back up if it might possibly reverse everything (because then it would say we were all friends again) but I honestly want no part of it. I also don't know if i should try sitting with them at lunch like I have wanted to for a while, I don't know if then they'd know everything was ok or they'd just think I was an assh ole.
2006-12-03 01:33:13 · 10 answers · asked by leena 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hi! Sorry about your dilemma.... With all things considered, if you want to keep people as friends, I would apologize. Whether you were wrong or not, if someone is important to you, you will show them that you care about their feelings by acknowledging them. You don't necessarily need to apologize for WHAT you did, but apologize that you hurt them in that way. That you didn't mean for them to perceive it the way they did. IF you do not care if they are your friends or not, then I agree with the rest of the people that say you should do what you please. I believe in your own right and having the right to choose what you do, but if you want to keep a friend as a good friend, you will consider their feelings in the situation too. A know-it-all, bad attitude will get you nowhere. I, too, at one point felt that I wasn't IMPORTANT enough, but that simply is not true. All this is showing is that these people really care about having you as a friend, too. Otherwise, it probably wouldn't anger them. I would explain to them what you said on your post. Good Luck! I'm sure everything will work out fine.
2006-12-03 07:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cadcar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you don't owe them anything. But since that was obviously a means of communication you had with them, it would be nice and considerate of you to clue them in, just like if you changed your phone number. A simple, 'hey guys, just to let you know, I ended up taking down my 'myspace' account, I just didn't like it, but if you have yahoo msg (or whatever form of internet contact you do have) I can give you that screen name if you want to keep in touch?" have a pen and paper ready if someone wants it. If they're actually ticked that you prefer not to converse in a certian media, then they're probably not very good friends. Although I understand that sometimes bad friends are better than no friends.
2006-12-03 01:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your life, your choice to have your site or not. You owe no one an apology, an explanation, your choice. Do not be talked into or feel obligated to do as others do just because it is the so called "in" thing to do. Take care of yourself and your health concerns, that is most important.
2006-12-03 01:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you owe anyone an explanation. If people make a comment to you, simply tell them that you did not have the time to keep up your facebook. If they can't understand that, then ya don't need them or their drama.
2006-12-03 04:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe them nothing. Your facebook was yours and has nothing to do with anyone else. if these so-called friends are mad without even so much as asking you what the deal is..they are not very good friends.
2006-12-03 02:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might mention that you got rid of your facebook, but if they are true friends they shouldn't care. Find friends who think you're cool like you are. If these "friends" get pissed at such a trivial thing then who needs 'em!!!
Be you own person!
To thine own self be true!
2006-12-04 13:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked this question before. That makes me think that you're overanalyzing the situation.
2006-12-04 09:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must you have approval for your every move?
Be your own person, if you run around trying to please your friends all the time, then who are you pleasing you or them?
Food for thought!
2006-12-03 02:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by tom_casper_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you study at all at school or just spend time with this drama?
2006-12-03 03:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it...it'll go away in time. What you do with your time is your business.
2006-12-03 05:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋