Time passes...do you make the first move to reconcile, or do you let her stew until she comes to her senses? What if she never does...and a lot of time has passed??
2006-12-03 01:20:04 · 6 answers · asked by wetdreamdiver 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To be honest, her self-righteous opinion means little or nothing to me. It's been over 7 years, and I ran into her husband once in a store some years ago. Me change? Why would I? I had no problem with me, she did...and like I told her when she parted, "You'll need me a helluva lot sooner than I'll need you!"
2006-12-03 01:34:37 · update #1
I am in a similiar situation and I say if you REALLY mean what you wrote then let it be the way it is. I will never ever speak to my sister again and I have come to have NO emotions what so ever where she is concerned. She was NEVER nice to me and lies about me constantly,etc. Don't change for her or anyone else unless you want to change for yourself. If you are not doing things to harm yourself or others and you're happy with your life then she is the one with the problem not you. Sometimes as unfortunate as it may seem certain family members are not worth the problems that THEY cause. Accept it and move on,you'll feel a lot better once you have totally accepted things as they are.
2006-12-03 02:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i will tell you this,,,my sister has lest my family and went with her loser boyfriend,,,,took away my niece from me and my son....just because she has issues(basically shes off her rocker)...BUT i will not call her,beg her...or anything of that nature to be in my sons life. She left us for whatever her stupid *** reason was. She made her choice now she will have to live with it,if she ever needs someones shoulder to cry on she better not come my way because im done with her. So if you feel like you dont want to make the first move as to reconcile with your sister then dont,,,its up to you,,,,but you could also try and talk to her one time,,and if then she still wants nothing to do with you at least you made the first attempt. Then you can move on. Some family members just dont see that we are the only ones they have that will love them no matter what,,,and life is too short to be arguing and not speaking,,,but as long as you try at least once then you have done the best you can. Good luck
2006-12-03 09:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have made changes since the last incident and you are sincere in cleaning up your act, then it is possible that you are ready to make amends... If you have hurt her , you need to apologize.. why would anyone put up with Simeon's bad behaviour... You didn't give any details, so I am going out on a limb here.. Obviously something brought this on.... If it has been dealt with and corrected, then go to her and make your pitch,.... the apology is first if you have wronged her.....then go from there.
If you love and respect her, then you should own up to what has been said or done and assure her it won't ever happen again.
Tell her you love her and are sorry....,
2006-12-03 09:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the heck? Make the first move. If she responds, then great. Remember, you have to forgive her for acting the way she did. I say this under the assumption that you've done nothing wrong and that your sister unfairly judged you. You gave no details as to what made her turn her back to you. That could change everyone's opinion.
2006-12-03 09:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Ed A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say make the first move. If she doesnt like it then back off, but it might show her that you are responsible enough to try and salvage your relationship
2006-12-03 09:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by chance m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to reconcile, and change the behavior that led to this. Good luck and God Bless you and yours.
2006-12-03 09:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋