2006-12-03 01:04:01 · 18 answers · asked by DanceForJoy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my dear gal.. there is no right or wrong in a R/S. U still love ur ex. bcoz u have really fallen for him before. A pat on ur shoulder, u hv no regrets of lov'n him with ur whole heartly. He shld be the one who shld feel ashame on who cheated u. No worries, u shld not bother with him anymore... let it be past and look forward. U deserve a better one. =)
2006-12-03 12:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Its me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to still feel in love w/ your ex. But you need to understand that the person you loved never existed. See you fell in love with him b/c you felt you could trust him, b/c you felt like he was honest and kind and good looking and so on. But he was none of those things in reality. You can't trust him b/c he lied and cheated, he isn't a honest person b/c he lied, for who knows how long or how many times, he isn't so kind b/c kind people take other peoples feelings into consideration and since he was only thinking about himself that makes him selfish, and lets face it theirs a ton of good looking men out there. Personally this would make him less attractive b/c a persons whole self is what makes them look more appealing and since the qualities you thought he had don't exist then his appearance should now mirror the qualities he truly has, which doesn't leave much for the eye. Look I know you’re hurt, I've been there too, but the truth is you made a bad judgment call it’s not your fault. He led you to believe that he was someone he isn't. There are men out there that do hold those qualities, don't sell yourself short. Next time around instead of just being in love w/ the idea of love or being in love w/ qualities that the person doesn't posses you will find a person that meets all you expectations and you will be in love w/ the person not some made up guy. If you know what I’m saying. My relationship prior to my husband was toxic. But I couldn't get over him, until I realized the person I fell for never really existed. Then I met my husband and now I'm able to experience and feel what true love should be like. Relationships are trial and era there are going to be not so good ones and not so bad ones but then there will be that one that’s different from all the rest. And all that trial and era will have given you experience to recognize that this is what love should be. Good Luck, and never lower your standards or expectations for some guy. Remember he's your ex now for a reason! He doesn't deserve you! Relationships that are ment to last, DO!
2006-12-03 09:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I was in the exact same position, hon!!
I still think about him sometimes, and sometimes I still want him even though it was HIM that was the prick!
But keep reminding yourself HE is a fool for having cheated on you - do you HONESTLY want to be with somebody who would treat you like that?? There are plenty of nice guys out there!! Maybe you're attracted to him because of this "dangerous" element to him, and it excites you???
It's SO hard to get over someone you love, and the rejection tastes bitter, but all I can advise is to stay strong, get successful and do what you love - act like this breakup never bothered you at all - and eventually the name will be one of the past!! Time is a good healer!!
All my love
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2006-12-03 09:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by xxbaybigurrlxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong, not even unusual. You do not stop loving someone because they break your heart. He made the choice to step outside of the relationship and you have a broken heart. Very normal. However, it is your choice to decide if this is something you can forgive and forget and move on forward in a relationship. The trust factor has been violated. Can the trust be rebuilt. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-03 09:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong to still love him even though what he did was really wrong you still have the feelings for him just be carful if you take him back he may do it again
2006-12-03 09:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. You're in a position to get cheated on again by him.
2006-12-03 12:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by ttjakt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i still feel like no one will make love to me like my ex
but yeah u still love them.
it live people come in go.
i hope the next doesn't become ur ex, if he does then it will be the same time, u still love and he is now ur ex
2006-12-03 09:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is hard to get over things like that, especially when the relationship probably ended before you wanted it to.
2006-12-03 09:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by ☆Soon 2 be Mom of 2☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love there r no right or wrong, we r not in final test, you fail you test that 's it~! you love him and he treat you like a princess that's y you love him~! but no what a guy who cheated his gf in no good man you should 4get him and i believe you will met some one better.
2006-12-03 09:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong, its only natural. Feelings dont just disappear. Time does heal though.
2006-12-03 09:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋