when my ex and i broke up after a relationship of three years, i took it really bad and his brother showed me great support. he told me continously how much he likes me and that he'll treat me better that the way his brother did. he really helped me back then and he became a very good friend. now i like him too, but i never showed my feelings. what would you do? respect your ex or go ahead? and what's more, a friend of mine really likes him and i don't want to betray her even though he told me many times that he only has feelings for me. what would you do? thanks for your help
2006-12-03 00:59:35 · 17 answers · asked by Lucky Charm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you do not feel awkward dating with your ex's brother, i say go for it, given that you both like each other this much. moreover, the fact that you wrote this, means that you are ready to go out with hum, so do it!!! with regards to your friend, it seems like she doesn't have a chance with him, so you're not doing any thing bad towards her, but i would talk to her before i went out him and explain the situation without hurting her.
good luck and god bless
2006-12-04 08:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is a tuffy. It's usually not a good idea to get between brothers, however, one of my best friends in high school did exactly what you are thinking of doing and she ended up marrying her ex's brother. They are still together after 30 some years, so obviously there are exceptions to every rule. I guess you have a 50/50 chance of happiness. Just don't be too surprised if one brother turns out to be much the same as the other brother. Natures tend to run in families. It might be too difficult (for you) not to compare, is what I am saying.
2006-12-03 01:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like too much drama going on there!!! I'd probably stay away and find someone else if I were truly lonely,otherwise just be happy with yourself right now,you don't need a man at all times to be content with life.Try finding out different things about yourself that make you happy without all the relationship ups and downs for a while!!!
2006-12-03 01:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The unspoken rule: you do not date the brothers, cousins, uncles, friends, fathers, etc. of X's or your friends.This would cause a great deal of pain and discomfort in a family between two brothers. Move on their are so many men in the world. This is not OK. God bless****
2006-12-03 01:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have friend who broke up and get back 2gether and finally get married, i m not saying that you have to go there .some times , ppl come and go u might need to make a big turn to find the 'one 'if you think he treat you right and you r ok with him why don you give him a chance to try one more time ?may b this time he will appreciate more .
2006-12-03 01:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about the ex-boyfriend, boyfriends come and go....friends dont.
I think that before you speak to the guy you like, you need to tell your friend he's true feelings towards you and your feelings towards him. Ifs shes a true friend she will understand, but it will be tough for her, but at least you are not hiding anything from her.
Good luck x
2006-12-03 01:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is if you value your friend ship with the girl who really likes him then i would back off even if he dosent feel the same for her friends dont do things like that to friends as for the boyfriend if he dumped you then i would have said go for it who cares what he thinks but the other friend is involved so dont go there
2006-12-03 01:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's a tough one. Well, I would respect the ex and the friend. It's just one of those situations you can't act on.
2006-12-03 01:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like him n he likes u shoot the moon together find out how ur gf really feels about htis guy. if the other people involved cant see reasons i dont xpect ur x to but ur gf should understand the guy wants u n u him. u will lose her sooner or later. all the best
2006-12-03 01:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by thebeautifultakiesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he only has feelings for you that obviously means he has no feelings for your friend so not being with him wouldn't do her any good anyways so I say go for it! And you and your ex are not together anymore, it is up to you who you want to date and it is up to his brother who he wants to date. None of his business anymore really.
2006-12-03 01:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋