Do you still love your long lost Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend even though you're with someone you also love now?! This question sounds totaly corny... but are you? and would you take that person back if they come back to you?
The thing is my ex-girl friend was/is literally and seriously "all that" Down-to-earth yet affluent, she's also beautiful_really (not just to my eyes), intelligent, loving, and caring, and well-bred.
It's been so many years.
I kinda cheated on her and she knew about it.
I know it's my fault. I can't move on. Oh God I love her so dearly!...if I can just turn back the time! =(
2006-12-03 00:53:04 · 10 answers · asked by Cool November Rain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem...and tooked my ex back...and now it's just love, love and love! But i never cheated him. I think you should try to have her back
2006-12-03 01:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.
2006-12-03 08:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it's all about who's got the making up to do. In your case you definately need to do all you can to win her back, since you messed things up by cheating. Trust is a hard thing to fix once it's been broken. In my case, I feel like I wasn't in the wrong so even though I still think of her, I don't feel it's worth my time to try convincing her to come back.
2006-12-03 08:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - i totally identify with the cold november rain
yes, been there done that... i miss my ex, he is with someone else, but.......
see, i would forgive him.....
simply cause i love him That much,
now the thing is that if u really love her like u say u do
u my friend better take a chance
i mean, dump the girl ur with, and tell her the truth
go back to ur girl, ask her forgivness, confee ur love, appologies to her
show her ur the one
and then u'll win her over
U love her - Be with her
2006-12-03 08:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i still love my ex boyfriend but i just know it wouldn't work out anymore because things change and we've changed and it's not even that i miss him i mis the connection we had but i have an amazing boyfirned right now and would'nt trade him for the world
2006-12-03 10:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its our first love, we do remember them, we do care for them.i used to love a man and then he ditched me and married another girl. he said he married her bcoz his mother wanted that. i went through hell. tried to end my life. then another one came along. he mend me up, got married. i used to cry lying on his shoulders thinking of the old days. recently i came to know that my bf was morally bad. taking a dip everywhere. i try to hate him. never, the pain is still so fresh in mind. i won't take him back even if he is the only person left on the earth.
2006-12-03 09:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by kaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and no and no.......their loss for cheating and lying to me.....I am with the most wonderful woman in the world now......she is a better mother to my children than their biological mother ever could be....we have custody
2006-12-03 08:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Monte T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she moved on and is happy with someone else. there are lots of people like her out there.
2006-12-03 09:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no in a millon years would I take him back
2006-12-03 08:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoooooooooooooooopss.....................
hey doode say sorry to her and convince her n take her back 2 u
2006-12-03 08:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Humaira Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋