My ex-boy of two years plus is getting married. Ive been invited to the wedding and im planning on attending. I wish him well and happiness with his future wife.
A few friends think its a bad idea to go. considering we parted well and have been friends ever since i dont see what the problem is. What do you think?
2006-12-03 00:31:24 · 21 answers · asked by Classique 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ultimately he wouldn't have invited you if he didn't want you there (and she was ok with it - she probably double-checked the list!)
2006-12-03 16:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position.
My ex boyfriend from like 6 years ago (wow, can't believe that long) is getting married on the 16th of this month.
The only reason I can't go is my fiance and I will be in Hawaii making our own marriage plans as we are going to get married in Maui in 2008.
If you two are well off as friends and he invited you, I don't see why not to go. Past is the past. He has moved on and I imagine you have too.
Maybe they are in fear you will have feelings re-amerg or make you feel very bad that he is getting married. Yet, this is all up to you on how you feel.
Just to attend the wedding part to wish him well and happiness, I don't see nothing wrong with it.
2006-12-03 13:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my Ex married, I didn`t go to the wedding because of respect to the other partner. Some people just play the naive the whole life.....maybe you are too young now but if you will miss the wedding what is going to happen? He just invited you like saying goodbye to you inside his heart. He just doesn`t know it and you too. Are you going to go there with your boyfriend or another quention...are you going to invite him to your wedding and would he come? Listen to your heart. Maybe it is not necessary to make a big mess of it. Just go and enjoy the party. It is just a party he made. He and the bride want to celebrate with people they love. So wish him luck and in twenty years and three children later you will say why the hell I made a big mess of this question? And I asked people in YC?
Aileen she is absolutely right.
2006-12-03 10:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by hephaistos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ended the relationship badly or still had feelings for the guy I would advice against attending the wedding. If you guys are on good terms and are friends, go. I would give a nice gift, wish them both well and have fun.
Personally I would bring a date, but that part is up to you. Have fun, and all the best to you ex and his wife to be.
2006-12-03 08:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex, who I date for five years and was platonic roommates with fro two years after we broke up (he moved out for the last two years of the relationship, moved to the city, and like a year later, wanted cheap rent in the suburbs, so I let him move back) he was an usher in my wedding, and he's been invited to "Friends Christmas" several years since the wedding, and he came to our housewarming when we bought the house, and he stayed with us a couple nights when he froze his pipes last winter, etc. If you're friends now, what does it matter if you once dated? Go and have fun! And like someone recommended, bring a date. The groom is not going to have time to entertain you.
2006-12-03 10:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You make no mention of being friends with his future wife, just him. Old lovers can never truly be friends and now that he's going to be a married man, I'd let him go completely. It's the bride's day and she really doesn't need someone there who had a 2 year relationship with her new husband.
2006-12-03 10:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would know better than your friends if you can truly enjoy yourself and feel happy for the guy and his bride. I would certainly understand though, if you also have some little pangs of sadness or jealousy. I would.
Best wishes to you from a Grandma-aged person
2006-12-03 08:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the wedding. It'll sure everyone that you're mature enough to be happy for him and that you are so over him. If you don't go it'll just show that you still have a thing for him.
Wish him and his soon-to-be-wife the best of luck in their marriage and be happy for him. At least you now know that he wasn't the one for you.
2006-12-03 10:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Callie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey there, I appreciate your feeling and the way of moving on with your life. I think it is a really good idea to go and meet him at such a special point of his life afterall you both shared some special time of your life together.
That will even be helpful for both of you to continue with the friendship which otherwise may come under suspicion from his wife.
I guess its a good idea!!!!
2006-12-03 08:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by my_5us 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for me, i think its ok to attend. Moreover, u two are still frens and conscious is clear. Ur frens said is an bad idea bcoz they may hv the think'n that u still cant get over him. No one knows.. only u urself knows wat u wan and whether or not u really wish him happiness and wana attend. Listen to ur heart. Do not listen to others. No worries =) ur heart wont bluff u
2006-12-04 00:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Its me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as u have truly accepted the fact that is it over between the two of you and you or attending to cause trouble I don't see why not. go gurl and have a ball
2006-12-03 12:14:15 · answer #11 · answered by MsThang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋