Should women work, just to increase income for the home?

Question

Now a days money is the new god. people work day and night to bring in more money. The women are also working. I believe that being a real home maker is a full time job. It is because children need mother all the time. Working mothers have to leave childern to baby sitters. This results into many horrible things like child pornography, drug addiction and god knows what more. Therefore the women should be encouraged to be full time home makers. Working women can at the best be called house makers. Great difference.

Answer 1

If you already have your answer why did you post the question in the first place? Anyhow, in my opinion if your qualifications are better than those of your husband in terms of potential income then he could stay home for babysitting and you can go on with your career. Even better, get a nanny. Only if you can earn more than the nanny. In this way you shall not start accusing your husband, sometime in the future that you destroyed yourself and your career for the shake of the family. Fair enough?

Answer 2

Every situation is different and everyone needs to make a decision based on what is right for them.

Some women need to work because their family could not survive without their income. some women prefer to work because staying home makes them crazy!

Not all working mothers have drug addicts for kids. Not all stay-at - home mothers have honor students.

Perhaps, in a perfect world, all mothers could stay home and take care of their kids. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world and people have to do the best they can with what they have. Criticizing someone for the choices they make is not helpful.

Since you feel so strongly about it, what are you doing to make it possible for mothers to stay home, take care of their kids, and still be able to have a decent roof over their heads and food on the table?

And don't say that they should not have children if they can't take care of them ---- maybe things have changed and they NOW have to go out to work.

Answer 3

Good talk. Yes. Nowadays, man without money is like a piece of rag in the hands of his wife and children (family). Wife will not give the due respect and children will disobey at will simply because the supposed bread winner is not winning any bread on the table for the family (wife and children). The wife work to assist in the family.

The wife will then know how difficult it is to put food on the table. Come to think of it, a family without money, that is no food on the table whenever it is necessary. There are always quarrels, endless nagging, you name it. Children will be going to neighbours' house whenever they are eating and you (father) don't have mouth or words to stop them since you cannot provide.

Some father are not educated, therefore, his income will not go round in the home. The wife may be more educated and as well support the man by working to increase the income.

The children on their part should be drawn to God. By introducing them to children church where they will be taught on how to fear God and respect parents. There are still good House- Help and Day Care.

Answer 4

I was a stay at home Mom when my girls were growing up. I feel as you do as far as a mother and a housewife being a full time job. I was not only involved in their school functions but when they had extracurricular activities after school and weekends I was there also. I knew their friends and most of their friends parents. I was not my girls best friend, I was their mother and confidant, I was there when they needed me, not just in sickness but with disagreements with other kids and teachers. I took them to get their school supplies and school clothes, we had school breaks and holidays, vacations and snow days together. I understand that for some women this is not possible because they are in a single parent household. They are missing out on the best years of their childrens lives. Children need their parents, especially mothers. I can't help feeling this is why so many kids turn to other kids and do things they would not be doing "to fit in" if they had a stay-at-home mom. Drugs among kids is so abundant anymore and it seems the kids are getting younger and younger when they start to experiment with them. Not only do the children suffer from mom working but if people would sit back and think about all the young men coming out of school that need a job and start their own families and no job is available because women are working and for what? A double income? I think the laws need to be changed. If people would cut back on their spending, wanting everything new on the market instead of just the necessities, raise the babies they brought into this world instead of handing them off to Grandma or a stranger to babysit, let Daddy bring home the paycheck, not only will our young people get back on track but our lack of job situation would improve. For the women that are educated and are the main bread winners in the houshold, I see nothing wrong with Mr. Mom as long as he works the job as mothers do, cooking, cleaning, shopping, diapers and car pooling. I see the women out there working today with husbands or boyfriends sitting home playing games on the computer (like this is some talant and will make them multi-millionaires...get real dead beats!) the kids are running around the house with little to no supervision, hungry and the house is in total chaos...but daddy needs to get to the next level so get the heck out of here!!!!
What I'd like to know is..if you are on state assistance, can't pay bills, kids on state medical cards and your getting food stamps to buy them food...where did the computer and cell phone and game boy or X-box come from??? Last I heard the internet was not on any government program either. I think the younger generation that have been left so much on their own while mom was out earning that second paycheck for all these luxuries have taught our young men that it is now the womans role to put the food on the table so they don't have to be responsible for anything but to make babies and WIN THAT NEXT LEVEL.

Answer 5

The mother/wife should work only if she makes a lot more than it takes for her to go to work. If she doesn't make much more than the lunches out with co-workers, new work clothes, etc, then no... she shouldn't work outside the home. If all of her income where to go into savings, then yes. If her and her spouse expect to send their children to college and they expect to be able to retire early, live without much dependence from the government in their old age and want to be young enough and available to baby sit their grandchildren, then work seems like a good idea. I'd have the wife stay home for a couple years after each child is born though.

Answer 6

Times are constantly changing , and to put bread on the table , women often need to help out , and sometimes they even do better than males .... you are right the main priority are the kids at home , but when they get older , it is much better for a women to enter the work force where it becomes a win win situation , a women lonely at home will fade away . It is much more fulfilling and enriching for her as a person to feel busy , contributing to the bread winning , and as a nurturing mother to her children ( Evidently without forgetting the relativity of time spent , and the priorities of the family )

Answer 7

You have left out another alternative... DADS can stay home with children while Moms work. Or both parents can alternate staying home/working so one is always home with the children.

Life presents many challenges and choices and we all choose what is best for our own family.

In my case I worked tiny part time jobs when my children were little, so that I could have a "break" and continue to feel like a competent professional. Most of the time I was home with them.

from a grandma-aged person

Answer 8

yeah i know what you mean. my parents both work in the entertainment industry--my dad is a musician and my mom is a talent manager. both parents have to be away even on crucial occassions of our lives. recently, i've volunteered to fill in for my mom when shes too tired and so she hired me full time. but anyway , musicians income is not stable--today you are a hit tomorrow you are history. so you can imagine how rich and poor we were. my mom has to go to the office during the day and see to her talents gigs and shows ant night. she's 47 and she doesn't deserve to be stressed out like that. i've been doing my best to help my mom since she also wants to tend to my little brothers and sister. my mom always told me to marry well. it kinda hurt me and i thought she was teachng me to be a goldigger but now i see the importance of what she told me. its either you are rich or you have a great family relationship. thats how it is these days. only few are blessed to have such a hardworking man in the family who brings home the bacon and lets the wife take care of the kids needs.as a child my parents missed an awarding ceremony and i remember that on a field trip i was the only kid without snacks...my mom forgot about me alot coz she was busy with work. when she gets home shes in a crappy mood. its hard to tell people to marry well coz thats not what love is about. its probably good to marry when both parties are financially stable.

Answer 9

In a perfect world all mothers would be able to stay at home and raise their children. However, many times it is out of necessity that women must work and leave the children to babysitters, daycare providers, etc. I don't think it is always a question of just wishing and wanting more money. I am sure more women would prefer to stay at home with their children and raise them. God bless****

Answer 10

I support working mothers as long as they are home for their children when they get home from school. I work at a daycare(and yes working mothers pay my employer to pay me -but I hate my employer anyway as my employer gets stressed out over parents. I want another job). I can't stand it when children are dropped off at 6am and not picked up until 6:30pm.

Due to the fact that employers see that women can work 8-5, that is why wages are low. If women stood up and said "no, my kid comes first before my career", then men would get a salary or wage large enough to feed his family and more.