I've been dating a wonderful & very faithful guy for going on a year now, he's been married and has a son. The problem is that I'm realizing that his being married previously really bothers me because marriage is a vow of commitment & I fear that I will start resenting his son because his birth was the reason for their marriage. I know this sounds weird, but because his son is around so much, I find myself wanting to keep my distance from him because he constantly reminds me of my boyfriend's ex wife (who is currently remarried). I know this shouldn't bother me, but it does. Also, my boyfriend has had lots of other girlfriends, before me, and it bothers me that they may have been with him intimately. Sometimes I get so frustrated & upset that I sometimes take it out on him even though he's already declared his love for me & wants to marry me. I know everything is just in my head & I should get over it, what can I do to get myself to snap out of it before he gets fed up?
2006-12-03 00:28:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His son is only 3 years old, loves me and tells me that he does everytime I see him (which is pretty much everyday, my bf has custody of him). He even chooses to be with me rather than go to his mom's house. As for my boyfriend, he is the one that didn't want to be with the other girls (he dumped them) and now wants to spend the rest of his life with me... the problem is with me, not him.
2006-12-03 00:38:50 · update #1
Jealousy will ruin your life if you don't get it under control now. You said the guy is "wonderful" and "very faithful" and the child seems good to you and accepting of you. You are the problem and you need to just stop being such a immature child. Do you know how many women are out there with abusive men? Unfaitful men? Bad home lives? All those women would love to have what you have right now, which to me seems pretty nice... a loving man and a sweet child who loves you. What happens if you let this guy get away? You will continue to be a crazy, jealous woman incapable of finding true love because you always ruin it with your nonsense!
Oh, did I mention that this summer I lost a woman because she was a overly jealous and insecure. ya, it sucks too because she was otherwise wonderful.
2006-12-03 00:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i for my area think of you 2 could stumble on a time to take a seat down mutually(without distractions) and communicate approximately this undertaking between you the two. If it ends with a wreck-up, %. your self up. it quite isn't any longer ordinary for the 1st few days or perhaps weeks yet once you look returned next time, you will know which you made the perfect decision. indexed right here are some suggestions to ignore him after a wreck up: a million) Delete his variety out of your telephone or something that has his variety 2) ignore the satisfied moments with him and concentration on his flaws and the cases the place he dealt with you badly 3) Throw away all the satisfied photos of you the two God Bless You -wish It facilitates-
2016-10-17 15:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him marry him. jealousy IS normal and i dont blame you. ive been jealous many many time before. but if he loves you i mean he loves you. just because hes had many girl friends doesnt mean he dumped them. i can understand the jealousy but i mean please dont blame his son. i have my younger sister boyfriend in the same situation. hes a 7th grader and his parents are divorced and dating other ppl. he may just be around because he probably doesnt want anyone to marry his dad, hoping that maybe they will get back together. maybe try and spend some quality time with his son and get to know him, then maybe when you see him you will think of your future life as his step mom, not his mother
2006-12-03 00:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by DanceForJoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in junior high? get over it or get out!!!! just that simple !
2006-12-03 01:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by rickblck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋