i have met some people over the net thru the chat. but when they start to tell me that we should meet in person when they go to my place, i get cold feet., don't know why but i really dont know what to do and what to say if ever i meet with them
2006-12-03 00:28:47 · 12 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called Social Phobia.
http://www.cpa-apc.org:8080/Publications/archives/Bulletin/2001/May/Impact.asp
2006-12-03 00:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I haven't been as far as meeting someone I've chatted to on-line, however i have been on the phone with one person and remember feeling a little weird & speechless. I think when your chatting to someone online, although your discovering things about who they are, they still have a certain degree of 'anonymous-ness' about them. So when you meet them they become 'real' in a sense, and could be a reason why you feel 'reserved' and 'fearful' in meeting them.
You may get cold feet for a lot of reasons because you may not know them well enough: EG: fear that he/she may not like you, or he/she may not be what YOU expected e.t.c.
2006-12-03 00:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by jiven85 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i could be two thing the anxiety to meet someone is very common, your own insecurities all come in to play when first meeting someone, the whole' what if they don't like me' thing or you could be agoraphobic and spend all your time in doors and hate the thought of even going outside' everything is safe in your little world as long as you can control it' JUST DO IT get a life and a real friend, not just words on a PC
2006-12-03 00:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by gazooks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey mabey you've got a problem, but it sounds like a good problem to have in my opinion. The internet is notorious for having sex preditors and other weirdos convicing you to meet them in person. You SHOULD be weary of meeting people in chat rooms. If you feel the same in person though, you should seek help.
2006-12-03 00:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That isn't you being afraid of strangers. That is you being smart and listening to your instincts. Telling you not to invite every Tom, Dick and Harry over. You don't know who they are, why would you. So you can be the next major news headline? Listen to your instinct, stop making yourself believe it is a phobia. Give me a break.
2006-12-03 00:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Katsika 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. This kind of reaction can be treated easily. Lots of people have it and the sources of this "shyness" are usually just beneath the surface of our past experience. See a trained counselor that you trust. Talk about it. You will feel better soon.
2006-12-03 00:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, it's weird. I can go do business with people all day long, no problem at all. But social situations are a real effort. If a business relationship turns social, I suddenly get shy.
2006-12-03 00:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
should be careful when meeting strangers. there are so many weirdos out there. please please be careful sweetie. Now I am going to worry about you all the time. If you must meet someone make sure people are with you so you are not alone with someone that may end up being a sicko!!
2006-12-03 00:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by HijabiMuslimah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i suffered with this and had to get counselling...its called 'Social Anxiety/Phobia'...speak to your GP about getting some help and ideas about how to control this
good luck
2006-12-03 00:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agoraphobia is fear of strangers. It sounds like you may just be cautious, or shy, however.
2006-12-03 00:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋