I am getting re-married to my ex-husband which we are planning for 10/07. My mother in particular wants to know why we are doing something BIG ( a ceremony and reception) instead of just having a JP come to the house and then go out to dinner.
We want to go on a Honeymoon and we want to share our starting over with our family and friends. I have never asked my parents for money seeing that they paid for the 1st wedding. Why is it such a big deal? Can someone give me some advice???
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2006-12-03 00:24:13 · 11 answers · asked by missfitts6377 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is lovely that you have found happiness with each other again!
And i think you should celebrate that and tell the world if you want to, some people never find the right person and you have found the right person twice over, so you do what you want, life is short so dance, dance, dance.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-12-03 00:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It use to be that second marriages were done quickly & quietly without much ado.
And that is fine, if that is what you choose. In fact, there are a lot of couples who choose this for a first marriage.
But you have lost love & found it again! What better way to celebrate that than with the wedding of your choice. It makes no never mind that you've done this before. This is a fresh start for you both.
As long as you are picking up the tab & will not have to depend on your parents to help you later, financially, because you can't make your rent payment, then go for it.
Congratulations!
2006-12-03 05:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want a big wedding and your not asking for hand outs and you wanna show the start over then i say go for it its your day. i do see however the question on everyones mind because they are saying you married this person once before and the real question they are asking without saying it is why waste your money again you did it once and it didnt work why do it again but if this is what you both want then go for it dont listen to the other people maybe that will make things head in the wrong direction with your partner
2006-12-03 00:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your parents think that you have already married him once, why the fuss a second time around? he already knows what you look like in a wedding dress, and there is nothing special about it, you just changed your minds to be together again. (i'm saying that's parents thoughts, not mine). You should do what makes you happy, after all it is YOUR wedding day, not your parents, and will be YOUR memories!! Make it as special as you want to make it. When i got married for the first time (and only time) i wanted to wear a blue wedding dress but my family said no, it was only for a second marriage, but my favourite colour is blue. I went against them and they got over it, and i have many cherished and happy memories of the day! The point is, after they made a fuss and ruined your wedding, they will forget about it and you won't, so you should do what you want to do with your wedding so that you will have something nice to remember instead of feeling regret. Good luck and congrats!
2006-12-03 02:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting remarried to your ex? Are the issues that broke up the first marriage resolved? If you really want to get married, which I believe is a mistake, you should tone the ceremony down. Big wedding ceremonies are usually for the first time people get married.
2006-12-03 00:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i remarried (someone new i wouldnt remarry my ex if he was the only male left on the planet) i went all out and had a big wedding i didnt get one the first time around although i had tons of fun planning it if i get my now boyfriend to marry me i will NEVER do a big wedding again in retrospect it was such a big waste of money and lots of it. of course the whole marriage was a waste of time it took me lomger to plan the wedding than the marriage lasted we were only married 8 months hope yours works
2006-12-03 01:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by t b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your x-hubby are paying to remarry, it's no one else's business how it's done. I'm getting married for the 2nd time- his 1st - in Feb. We are having a small chapel wedding (10guests) and a small reception later. In this day and age, no one care about things like that. Unless it's like your 3rd + marriage and trying to blow things out of proportion. 2nd weddings are no longer a big deal anymore. Tell family that unless THEY want to pay for it, to let you do it the way you want. It's your $$.
Congrats and good luck.!!
2006-12-03 01:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more common for second weddings to be small, but its your wedding. Do what you and your fiance want to do. I think a big party to start the new life together is a nice sentement. Good luck and congrats!
2006-12-03 00:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think getting married for the second time is ok
and yeh its up to both of u if u want it to be a big wedding and i dont blame u
hopeu have a wonderful day
2006-12-03 00:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your ex husband what diffrence does it make its your love and on top of that not only are you renewing your marriage but you are also renewing your lovr for each other ahndle your business girl its your day
2006-12-03 00:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by PASSION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋