They run a mile when they find out I have kids :(
2006-12-03 00:20:52 · 16 answers · asked by westernsydneymummy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
someday you will...my now husband fell in love with me and I had a teenage son with whom I had a strained relationship ...unfortunately, the relationship got worse and I had to send him to live with his father...now my son and I are getting along better...I think part of the strain we had was because of what his father would tell him every time he was visiting with his father...plus I think my son is maturing and developing his own thoughts and feelings!
2006-12-03 00:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by ToadysFroggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they leave you when they find out you have kids you don't want them in your life. the best thing to do is make it known that you have two kids from the start. That way they don't feel like they are getting bombarded or trapped. Remember that the people you date effects your children, and so do the amount of relationships you get into. If you tell a guy you have kids and he sticks around, really get to know him, and after a while if things seems like they can go into a relationsip get your kids opinion on him. Always keep in mind that your relationships effect your kids so you want a man who is willing to take on a role model position for them as well. Good luck and i hope this helps.
2006-12-03 11:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are running then they are not who and what you are looking for. Be Honest and up front Tell them Rite away that you have kids. That your kids mean everything to you and that you will not toy with their lives.Tell them that you may not be looking for a daddy for you kids but if this man is going to be a part of you life you come with boys and that is just a fact of life. If they don't go a running then your off to a good start. You could also try looking for groups for single parents,dating sights for single parents and so on and so forth. It might be a place to start to build up you confidence.
2006-12-03 10:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you,
I have 3 girls and I'm a single Mum.
Do the things that you want to do first,
I'm learning to drive and I am going to study law.
At the moment I don't have time for a bloke, cos I'm too busy thinking about me.
I'm 28 and have been married twice [they were violent]
I have spent the last year building the foundations of 'me'
Then when I am ready and do have time and I'm doing what I want to do, I know that I will meet someone who will treat me how I deserve to be treated.
Any man who runs a mile cos you have children is not worth anything, you want to be with someone that thinks of it as 'fun' or as a 'bonus'
Lots of luck
2006-12-03 08:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't look for love you let if look for you. Your kids are apart of you and if you meet a man who can't accept you children then is not the one for you. Never let anyone demind you especially when it comes to your boys. There love is unconditional always and if you do find someone who wants to love you make sure that they can accept your kids off top. No matter what you can't change the fact you have them and love yourself, your kids, and then worry about a man
Good luck!!!!
2006-12-03 12:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by blaqie2284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the case, screw 'em. I have a little boy and somewhere there's someone who will want BOTH of us. I dated a guy who wanted me but not my son...a waste of my time. You'll find someone, he may have a couple of his own. I wouldn't look too hard, it comes when you least expect it (easy to say, right?). Don't worry about it and let it happen, you may meet someone at their school or the park, or the market. If a man doesn't like the fact that you have kids, HE'S not worth YOUR time.
2006-12-03 08:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the right one comes it will all be ok and fit into place. My brother married a woman who had two kids and treats them like they are gold to him. He didnt run in fact invited the kids to go on dates with them. Now theyve been married 5 years and going strong. The guys who run are D*^&*s
2006-12-03 10:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So? Let them run.....You're a mother, your kids come first. If you are content with being a mom and focus on your kids and stop searching for the right man, one day he will just fall into your lap. You really don't NEED a man to be happy....you have to little men already....make life about them.
2006-12-03 11:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS OUT THERE!! I was a single mom for 5 years and went through the same thing...2 years ago I met the man of my dreams, something I NEVER thought would happen. We have been married for almost a year now. DON'T GIVE UP!!
2006-12-03 11:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will find you. My now-husband and I got married six years ago. I had a 7 and a 5 year old from a previous marriage. He loves me AND them. My son is crazy about him. We now have 2 children of our own, a 1yr old and a newborn and he couldn't be happier. I am glad that I found someone who wants all of us, not just me!
2006-12-03 08:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda in the same boat. I'm divorced with 2 boys myself. Just go to yahoo personals. Be honest and see what happens. You get some interested guys there.
Or just have your friends introduce you to someone.....
Good luck!
2006-12-04 01:15:04 · answer #11 · answered by Trese 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋