I take it very personal. Could this be stemming from something in the past growing up with a brother who liked to manipulate and accuse? How does one handle this biblically to not care and take it personally? or gently confront that person when you are hearing something that is not true. Example: Someone telling me "You never call me, I always call you". Which is false because I call that person. I know the person just wants me to call more, but to me that is trying to make that person look better? This is probally basic 101 stuff, but I need answers thanks!
2006-12-03 00:15:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Because you care too much about what they think and less about what you think. Stand tall and face them down.
2006-12-03 00:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is basic human nature. In order to "rise above it" you simply need to learn to either not engage in an argument or accusing match as you lose immediately upon opening your mouth. You have to realize that no one can do anything emotional or mental to you that you do not acquiesce to and when you do argue back you simply feed the other person ammunition. If you become offended you need to ask yourself why? If the person is important to you then you should be able to walk away and then come back around when you both can discuss the argument rationally. If that time doesn't happen then agree to disagree and let it go. If the person does not matter to you then why should their opinion matter? It is ignorant to let someone you care nothing about have a monopoly on your emotional health. Move on...
2006-12-03 08:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by mortgagegirl101 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
King Solomon said, "All is vanity, and vexation of spirit!"
He didn't use the word vain, which would translate as "meaningless",
like in newer Bibes. He used the word "vanity". He was talking about
egotism, false pride.
If someone harasses us, constantly saying things to us, that's different. But immature making fun and things, shouldn't bother a mature man or woman.
Self-righteousness, pointing the finger at others, and making a big deal
out of their faults. Is just a siily game people play to try and keep the
attention off of thier own faults. Know it for what it is! Expose it for what it
is, without attacking any one individual. And they'll leave you alone!
2006-12-03 08:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by THE NEXT LEVEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have set high moral for yourself. Your proud of your moral code. So when someone you know accuses you wrong you find it hurtful and offensive.
Next time a person says you never call me, I always call you! You simply tell them excuse me I have called you. Excuse me are my calls to you that unimportant that you would say I haven't called you?
You just have to think of the correct response for each situation. A hard thing to do. However you will see that you will be falsely accused less often.
2006-12-03 08:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we always hurt the ones closest to us our love ones so we can look bigger to our Friends no matter what cuz deep down inside we know that we will always still have our family b but there is a thing with taking it too far and you could loose your family over it and let me tell you friends are a dime a dozen they come and go but family doesn't a real friend wont burn you so that they will look better to some one else and make it look like your fault but Ive had also family members do the same but the problem with family doing that is that they cant total get raid you and the mess that they made while making them self look better at the cost of losing you as a family member so they have to moved in order to kept the appearance up . it hurts really badly even when its family doing it .but just remember that blood is thicker than water and family is family no matter what they have done and they will always be family but friends well they are just that friends and that's as close as they can every get . you cant forget but you can forgive and remember how often shall i forgive my brother seven times not seven times i tell you but seventy times seven.
2006-12-03 08:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the dignity that Jesus showed before the Sanhedrin and also before Pilot? this is how we should conduct ourselves when we are falsely accused and then rejoice at our fellowship with the Lord, we should always be aware that we have an ego that detests to be humbled and delights in self pride, be on your guard against this inward enemy and with humility you can master this.
2006-12-03 08:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just like you,we have to start in forgetting about what other people says,we know who really is telling the truth,just tell the person,"believe what you want and walk away,very calm".
2006-12-03 08:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by linrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start to let it go and use your belief in God to help you with it too. You can tell yourself "God knows the truth" or something similar whenever someone lies about you in public and seemingly hurts your rep. You also need to know that usually the ones who are lying are the ones hurting their reps with others, and it's only temporary damage they do to the ones they try to hurt.
2006-12-03 08:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's every human's want to be right. If you strongly feel you're right, then being called out on it will most definitely breed some resentment.
2006-12-03 08:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were made in the likeness of the Father. He is a God of justice, therefore we are a people of justice.
What your talking about is classic injustice, so your feelings are perfectly normal. (justified)
2006-12-03 08:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by bob j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋