Im going on a date for the first time in a very long time, i've noticed since i had stopped dating and going out alot, i'm now very reserved and the only time i am truly myself is with my family and very close friends which is who i spend all my time with. I am not really shy, but its almost impossible for me to relax and be myself around people im not close with, i dont meet new people often. Can anyone offer some wisdom
2006-12-02 23:47:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
going out on a first date it is better to keep you reserves up. you don't know what his intentions are. by all means don't have sex with him. Jamey is wrong!! sex is to be protected! during the date if you find yourself relaxing and you start to feel comfortable then go out with him again. the best way to base the relationship on love and friendship is to NOT have sex with him for at lest 2 to 3 months. otherwise he will base the relationship on sexual needs and not on love and respect.
2006-12-02 23:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way. I'm really a funny person, but on dates I'd act like a cardboard cutout because I wasn't comfortable. What I did, and this sounds crazy, but I'd say things to myself before the date like "I'm totally fabulous...this guy is going to just LOVE me" or "I'm so beautiful he's just going to go crazy!" Do I really think these things? No really, but it gives you a boost. Also, act how you want to act. Your family and friends think you're great, and if he doesn't like that "you", he's not the one for you anyway! Good luck!
2006-12-03 07:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not make it a double date with your friends so that you'll feel more comfy?
Before the date, you could also talk it out with your friends. Tell them your fears, talk about the big day, ask for advice about what to wear or whatever. Repeated exposure to/talking about something you're apprehensive or excited about would take away some of your jitters.
2006-12-03 07:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tsina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. The best way is to just get out there and get intimate and sort of push yourself to open up. Having lots of sex is good. That will loosen you up and make you feel really relaxed and have fun. Sex is a great comfort activity.
2006-12-03 07:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel -- i feel the same way --- the best thing is just talk to the guy ---- be reserved --- let the guy coax out the real you --- that shows real interest ---- he wants to know you
as long as you dont shut him out completely and are prepared to (in time) open to him then you will have a wonderful time
2006-12-03 07:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront with this person and tell them you find it difficult to open up with new people until you get to know them...take it slow and hopefully, he will understand..try to relax and enjoy the evening....good luck
2006-12-03 07:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
judge people wisely so you dont need to meet alot of people. I would rather have few but great friends than many flakey friends , right?
2006-12-03 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax...and be yourself....and find positive traits of this new man.... and pls don't compare this new man with your ex........
good luck....
2006-12-03 07:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Adele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is really your intent, you just go ahead and do it.
2006-12-03 07:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋