I've been with this girl for about 5 years now..we started dating when we both were in highschool..i was pretty much her first boyfriend and her first for everything..now after 5 years she says she wants to see what else is out there..this is totally out of the blue and no matter what i say she wont budge and our relationship ended...now all i seem to think about is her with someone else...dating and even more so having sex with someone else...me being her first was special to me and thinking of her with someone else kills me...is there anything i can do to cope with this pain??
2006-12-02 22:57:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she keeps telling me she just needs to see what else is out there and thats the only way shes gonna know if she wants to be with me or not..should i wait around or what?i mean i love her so much and am the type of person to do whatever it takes to work things out but this is killing me...also do you think she actually might be seeing someone since she broke up with my out of the blue and her reason is that she wants to see other people?
2006-12-02 23:15:27 · update #1
relationships are like finely woven rugs. you can't just tear it in half to seperate it. you have to unreavel it strand for strand, un-making the live you both wove together.
time will always heal. the general rule is that it takes two months for every year you are together (in your case ten months) to get over her.
girls that age realy don't know what they want, they think they do, but they don't, especially if they have not had the chance outside of a relationship to experience their transition from adolesence to adulthood. its not an ideal situation, but it is common. there is still the chance that she will find out that you were what she wanted all along after she sees whats out there.
i think it would be healthy for you as well to see what else is out there. cause as guys we always try to seem tough, but we don't like to be outside our comfort zone when we tread in unchartered waters. and right now, that relationship is your comfort zone. you may find out through your bachelorhood that she is not what you want in a woman.
2006-12-02 23:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by alex l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and live life. Keep as busy as you can. Take up all opportunities in life. One door closes, another one opens. 5 years is a long time to be with someone, so of course you're going to be hurting. It's natural. It's also natural to be thinking those silly thoughts of what and who is she with. These are the thoughts that make it harder. So the sooner you can get out and do things to occupy your mind the better. It is hard and as everyone says 'it takes time'. You will only come out the other end of this ordeal a stronger person emotionally, and with hope that you will find your true love. Good Luck, stay strong
2006-12-03 07:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by keepsake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should be practical in life n should move on . if one has gone dont worry u will get some one whose is perfect n made for u . an have some patiences . n be easy going .
2006-12-03 07:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋