I'm a 19-year-old girl and I decided to quit my family, my studies and my country and start a new life abroad. My parents are really angry knowing this, the present situation at home is unbearable, nobody speaks to me... I'm in a permanent depression. My parents seem not to see that I could be happier abroad-my boyfriend is living there and I want to study at a university there as well...
2006-12-02 22:34:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you probably wont be able to,,, if this is your decision, and you have thought it threw carefully, i would say do it, being sucessfull , attending an university,, writing to them
letting them know how your doing, what interesting things you have seen etc even if just a postcard a month,,, may eventually show them that you make a good decision for yourself........i wouldnt call it quitting everything, just taking a break from it /them for now. if you truely feel that this is the best decision for yourself for right now, and if you can support yourself financially, then i would say do it.
2006-12-02 22:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to quit your family? Why would you have to quit your family to move away? Maybe that's why no one is speaking to you.
Your parents will miss you. They've spent every day of your life caring, sacrificing and loving you, and now you want to leave and go so far away that they won't be able to see you. and not only that you want to quit them.
In a prefect world parents would be supportive all of the time and watch their children leave while they wave good bye. But it's not that easy. Parents are human.
If my son said he was going to study abroad I would ask how much it's going to cost. If he told me he wanted to quit the family I would tell him to pay for it himself.
2006-12-03 07:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by norwood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to respect your choices in your life. You're 19 and you are free to do what you want.
Your parents are probabally in shock now, and in quite a panic. Maybe give them some time to think about it all.
After they have calmed down, invite them out to a meal and discuss why it would be good for you to go to where you are planning on heading.
Let them give their views aswell, Explain why you want to leave the country and ect , give good reasons to back up your story.
If it all turns out wrong then I think you can just about stuff them. If they're not happy and supportive with the choices you make then they aren't worth considering.
2006-12-03 06:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion honey is that you are old enough to make your own decisions, If your parents do not like what you are doing, that's there problem. As long as your not hurting your self they should be happy for you as long as your happy. You need to watch out for number one that is you. Stop warring about trying to make everyone else happy, you need to be happy. I know how you feel all my life I was always trying to make everyone else happy, When I was forgetting about me so I to was depressed until I made A stand, I have never been more happier in my life. You will too.
2006-12-03 07:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by AliKatt33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't quit your family and your country, that's a fact you got to face.
I guess that a good way to settle the problems between you and your parents is if you live on your own. Just tell them unless they prepare to live with you for the rest of their lives, they got to let you live on your own.
As for your boyfriend and overseas university.
Things might go bad to ugly if they suffer the same fate as your family, your studies, and your country.
2006-12-03 07:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age it would be very unlikely that you would listen to any person that even tried to give you some good advice.
Go do as you want and learn a few things about life and then later you can seside where you really want to go.
Follow the BF and you may find you are not really wanted.
2006-12-03 07:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk like a grown up yet you seem to still need your parents blessings or approval. Admit you're not ever going to get it from them, pray and allow God to change them, not you. Then pack your bags, and go where your heart leads. In time, they will come round.
Wishing all God's best.
2006-12-03 07:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them your passport
2006-12-03 06:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT
YOU NEED THE TIME AWAY FROM HOME
2006-12-03 08:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will all blow over with time
2006-12-03 06:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋