Ok,so theres this girl that im really starting to like.Shes really flirty with me and usually all over me.Today she told me she likes another guy as shes hanging all over me..
Im not really sure if its true,or if shes just saying that to try and make me jealous.
To me it seems like she likes me,but i cant really tell with her cuause of how she acts sometimes.
Ive already told myself to give up on dating for a while because ive experienced heartbreak and I ALWAYS get played.Im just afraid that if i start to really like this girl and it turns out she doesnt like me..i dont..i just dont wanna be let down again.
I'd like to kinda find out if anyone thinks she likes me,or not.
what are other peoples opinions on what i should do?
2006-12-02 22:00:45 · 13 answers · asked by xxhrpxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you thought that maybe she's trying to make HIM jealous by hanging all over you? I know you like this girl, but you deserve to wait until you meet someone who doesn't play games with you. Sending mixed messages is certainly a form of game-playing.
2006-12-02 22:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi sorry I'm a guy, but I too have been played so don't do what I have just done. Flirting helps her to feel wanted and gets her the admiration she wants. She's using you until she can get a guy she wants often they are losers that will play her.
If you push it and say you like her she will first say she didn't realize, then if you are really unlucky she'll show you some feelings just to keep you hanging around then say something totally different in a weeks time when she had time to think about it. Then keep calling you to make you think you have a chance, all the time keeping this other guy there as the BF (which is what you want to be). She gets the nice things from you the BF won't give example talking to her about her problems, lifting her up when she's down then she'll run back to her BF when she feels better.
If you can RUN and quickly before she pulls you into a world where you'll be depressed, frustrated.. all the time as you can't have what you want do it. She'll just keep you hanging around until she dumps this BF and you hope she'll come to you and she'll just goes to the next BF by passing you again.
As my friend said have some self respect. Please try and find someone who wants you for you. She will be OK there will be enough guys out there she will use to get what she wants don't let it be you.
2006-12-02 22:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by 247 SEB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls like to flirt. You're probably a nice guy, pretty cute, easy to be with and totally non-threatening. If she told you she like another guy, she probably does. But she still would like to hang all over you because that's the role she's relegated you to--"best guy-pal that I can hang all over without him mauling me!" The only reason you're confused about her intentions is because you want them to mean something else. Trust me, no self-respecting girl who likes a guy and wants him to ask her out would say she liked ANOTHER GUY. It's ridiculous. Unless she's an out-n-out playa. And I don't think that's why you like her, so I'm willing to bet she's not. I say turn the temperature down, if you can, get some physical distance, and let your feelings turn into friendship, if that's possible. Sounds like your emotional radar is a little faulty at the current moment because of a past heartbreak. Give yourself some more time to reset your equipment. And start keeping Miss Flirts-Alot at arm's length.
2006-12-02 22:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop guessing and start asking questions. I'd be confused too in your shoes, if someone was hanging all over me I'd assume they liked me...but then if they sat there and said they liked someone else while doing so, I'd have gotten really upset-especially if I was having feelings myself....
Don't be down on yourself. Don't base your self-esteem on rejection, because it's part of life-we've all been rejected...loser's give up and you are NOT a loser just because one person might not feel the same about you as you do about them....
So, lift your chin, realize it just might be a game..and play knowing that it's a win-win situation. Just don't care if you lose..you never really do ya know....just opens up the doors for bigger and better things.....(but yeah, I think she might like you)
2006-12-02 23:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are living and we should try to get what we want. People say who doesnt take risks never got a chance to drink champagne. So u can never be happy if u are not ready to risk. Heartbreak is an experience that only make people stronger
2006-12-02 22:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by JUSTGIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she's fishing for a reaction from you. Next time she starts talking about it, just say "I don't know why you'd want a guy like him when you could have a guy like me" and wait for her reaction. If she just laughs it off, then yeah you really are just mates, but if she gets all funny and starts asking whether that would actually ever be possible, go for the kill!
Good luck!
2006-12-02 22:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by djtanybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now this is pretty tricky.
it sounds like she's pretty into you. and then again it's like shes trying to make you jealous. it's like shes kinda trying to tell you to make a move already. the reason why she said she likes another guy is so that you can ask her on a date or whatever. my opinion ask her out and see what she says. guarantee she's gonna be happy and say yes.
2006-12-02 22:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Hill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have her number? if she really likes u she mite be less flirty and more romantic,(but flirts are always fun) one tim e i told a guy thaty i lyked some1 other than him wen i really did like the guy just to make him want more.It worked mayb thats wot shes trying to do
2006-12-02 22:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by cute_lil_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she said she like someone else. you need to move on. because if you start a relationship with her she will break your heart. you say she flirt with you. i bet she flirt with other guy also. just wait. good luck
2006-12-02 22:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,i think it really depends...
maybe she is just trying to uses you to get close the guy she lyk or something lyk tat.
maybe she lykes you too,but she does not have the dare to tells you...
2006-12-02 22:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by CuRiOuS bOuT jOb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋