My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and are expecting our first child together in a few months. He is and always has been a flirt but here recently I've been hearing from some friends at work that he's takeing the flirting past just flirting and making sexual comments to a co-worker. After getting a phone call telling me that he had recieved some nude pictures from this woman I checked his e-mail and found it to be true. I have not had a chance to talk to him about this yet because we don't yet live together. I am very hurt by this and consider it a form of cheating. I have a friend who recently cheated on her boyfriend and my boyfriend talked about this on the phone last night. He told me how wrong it is to cheat on someone and agreed that if you don something that you feel the need to hide frome your mate or if it's something that you can't do infront of your mate then yes, it's cheating. He then assured me that he loves me and has and never would cheat on me.
2006-12-02 21:55:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him very much and for some reason feel like we should try to get past this and try to work things out for the sake of our child. I guess my question is is it really worth fixing and how do we go about it?
2006-12-02 21:56:29 · update #1
It's a rat trap and you've been caught. Oversee your suspicions and focus to the inevitable fact that you are to deliver your baby
2006-12-02 22:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth fixing?
You can't fix something you haven't faced yet? You have to confront him on these things you are hearing and seeing.
In my opinion he doesn't really love you if he is doing these things to other women and receiving naked pictures isn't a good start in a committed relationship.
If you haven't even lived together yet and this is happening you definitely need to be thinking about do you really want to be with this man? Can you trust this man? You don't put up with this type of behavior because you are having a child.
2006-12-03 06:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most married couples or "committed" couples fidelity is part of their agreement and that includes sexual faithfulness. If you decide to allow this kind of behavior from your boyfriend, you will have to live with that decision. However, if you two had agreed upon fidelity when you two got together has he broken that covenant (a verbal agreement) by getting a nude picture from a girl? Or by flirting? If you wish to extend your relationship's fidelity rule to include those things you must get his agreement, no? He obviously doesn't consider them as "cheating". Good luck and speak to him soon!!
2006-12-03 06:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by cranura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if he is actually taking the chance to talk to you about being faithful and unfaithful in a relationship then you ought to be okay... Don't stress out abou the pictures--- it's probably just a fox trying to get to your mate, but if you trust him and absolutely believe in his word then it will all be fine in a while. If you trully want to do something about it then I would go to the extend of letting that tramp know that he is your man... Even if your bf finds out, just let him know that she's crossing the line. G'luck!
2006-12-03 06:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well I think the best thing to do is to confront him and also the woman who sent him the nude photos and nip it in the bud, you need to tell him and her this needs to stop and now. Also I'd get ahold of his blogs address and email address and monitor what he receives and posts on his site and also try to get the woman who sent him the nude pictures her email so you can contact her if it happens again. If this continues if I were you, I'd consider breaking up w/him or telling him unless you know you can trust him, don't see him for awhile and tell him he needs to earn your trust again.
2006-12-03 06:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by kathmrc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did what you had to do. He will come up with the, "You don't trust me" defense but you can tell him that he hasn't given you a reason to. Confront him and let him know how hurt you are. The crappy thing is now everything he does is suspect. You guys need to clear this up and at the same time let him know that you are nobodys fool!
2006-12-03 06:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's worth to try. However, the most important thing is that..he must love you more than you love him. I understand that you love him..but you dont want to get hurt and find out that you cheat on you. Stand up for yourself. Love is blind if you can't be conservative.
2006-12-03 06:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by dragon_2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on what you classify as cheating. If he is carrying on any kind of personal contact (phone, email, in person) with someone it means they have somekind of connection then yes it is cheating...the emotional kind. You need to confront him and come to a resolution.
2006-12-03 05:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you feel it's worth fixing then you should give it your best shot. It seems like you already had done most of the work. Check www.marriagebuilders.com for more.
2006-12-03 05:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-03 05:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by da ndn dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋