I dated this amazing girl for 11 months and we had the greatest time, I've been through a lot of relationships and this was by far the best it was nearly perfect, unfortunately due to uncontrollable circumstances and other stresses we broke up. Now I've done my soul searching and realized that shes the one I want to spend my life with, but she has a boyfriend now, a rebound guy it seems. The problem is, one day she will tell me she misses us being together and she still loves me some, that she finds me attractive and she agreed to a bet that would most likely end up with us going on a date, the next day she tells me that shes staying with this kid, then the day after that she tells me there is a good chance of us being together again, can anybody guess as to what on earth is going on in her complex female mind, and offer some advice on what to do? I know her very well and it does not seem to me she is lying when she says anything to me, positive or otherwise.
2006-12-02 21:47:47 · 6 answers · asked by Adam 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it seems to me you and her should sit down somewhere and have a heart to heart talk. Tell her what you feel and what you want and tell her to make up her mind. If she chooses him then move on, it is not worth your time. She may see the light when she knows that she can't treat you this way and see what she will be missing. Don't play the chasing game. Be a man. I have faith in you. You sound like a great guy. There are women out there who would die for somebody like you.
2006-12-02 21:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by BJ B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the friggin' heart wants what it wants, no? Dude, I say give her some space. Real space. Don't call, don't write, don't send her mental thought waves. Let her truly figure out what she wants. Being a woman, her heart can be open to a lot of possibilities emotionally. We can even withstand the onslaught of chaos created by the return of an old love. Her acts will tell the tale more than her words, trust me on this. She doesn't want to hurt you. But get this, nor does she want to hurt the dude she's presently with, rebound guy or not. Really, just back off. Don't let her rope you into endless emotional diatribes or what-if wonderings. Forget the bet. Just let her figure it out. That's the only way you'll know if she truly feels the same way about you as you now do about her. And who knows? You might decide that with all the current "uncontrollable circumstances and stresses" she isn't what you want, after all.
2006-12-03 05:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) She likes both of you and cant decide.
2.) She doesn't know how to break it off with the other dude.
3.) She likes the attention
if he's a rebound guy, she'll do what's right. She just needs time. Rush it and it won't work.
2006-12-03 05:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by snippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said 'kid' obviously you are not all that old-relax-theres a proverb that "if you love someone and set them free & they come back to you-it was meant to be". BUT do not play games---it wastes your time--date others and see if 'shes the one'. Likely you will move on---but remember the proverb and don't push her, second time around is not always better, just more of the same.
2006-12-03 05:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants u she will come 2 u anyhow
2006-12-03 05:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you are a goon
2006-12-03 06:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋