this is not what order Im asking it is you had to choose one or the other for life NOT both and yes we all know marriage first and then children, but if you had to choose one OR the other?
2006-12-02 21:46:04 · 15 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Having a child.
I was single with my first. Believe it or not, I think it was easier alone! There was no one to argue with on values, discipline, etc. and there was certainly less laundry!!!
2006-12-03 03:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by CW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asking a hard question!! Some women find the thought of having a baby so scary, maybe if you were married then the thought of having a baby wouldn't be so scary because you have extra security at the time that someone will always be there for you. But then again I'm not a religious person and marriages still have there problems and lots end in divorce. A baby is for life, and being a mum of one nearly two I would definitely choose having a child over marriage. The best way to put this is.. When you are with a man, boyfriend we normally say "i love you". Since having a baby I believe its not actually love. You don't know what love is until you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, this is love.
2006-12-03 06:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A child is a forever commitment to a woman over and above marriage. Women, especially, are programmed to care for their child even when it is old enough to care for itself.
Having children is a natural state.
Marriage is a man made invention.
Most men, I think, would put marriage first. I believe that men come to parenting more gradually than a woman.
2006-12-03 06:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by DogDoc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage.
I did honestly choose marriage. I warned my then fiance that I thought I would never want children. He's more important to me then any "possible" people in our lives.
We are now pregnant with our first (and only child). But if I had to choose I would still choose to be married and never have children.
2006-12-03 09:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to have my children what is a piece of paper at the end of the day to an amazing little baby that grows into a wonderful child you dont need to be married to be in a stable relationship
2006-12-03 06:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child. To me getting married only has a point if you're religious and as I'm not its not important to me. I'm quite happy just living with my partner
2006-12-03 07:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me id take the child simply because ur child wont cheat on you ,always love u no matter what and u never have to worry about them leaving you for someone else.....children are blessings from god ...and id tkae a child over a husband any day...
2006-12-03 06:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlady38237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a toughy for me. As I am both married and I have a daughter... But if I had to choose I think I would get married, as you can always adopt.
2006-12-03 06:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by dragonbloodus 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
from having children myself i would definayly say kids as relashionsgips brake down and a love off your child is forever
2006-12-03 07:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by washerwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose to have kids, you could always stay with the one you love even if you're not married.
2006-12-03 07:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋