I'm in the Army and i have a friend whos married, now, i like his wife and now that they are having problems his wife is starting to talk to me.....and she has told me they're going to get a divorce, would it be right for me to go after her?
2006-12-02 21:39:29 · 36 answers · asked by Mr. Right 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, remember you might be behind a sand dune with this guy covering your *** in the future. Besides it is just bad karma.
2006-12-02 21:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by fuzzylilhippiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello buddy, it could be right however I would not advice this. You are a soldier and therefore you have a different more intense experience and perception of loyalty. Your boy might one day have to save your life. You do not want to compromise the assurance that he will when the occasion arises. And then there is your own sense of loyalty you would most likely experience going after this woman as betrayal. Even though it is not because your boy has to take care of homework. But this might be how you feel. And then after the first arguments you might project your guilt on her, it is HER fault. If you are good friends let her be. Not because of him, but because of you.
You are a soldier, you can go without anything and still get the job done.
2006-12-02 21:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't ever do that. If you want to live with peace try to find another girl not your friends wife. If you don't like that your friends will think negative on you. What will happen if this will happen to you and your wife will go with your friend...Will you be happy? Can you eat or sleep well by thinking of your wife and your friend laughing, eating ,sleeping together? If your answer is yes then go and get her. Its up to you to decide because , you are big enough to think good for yourself.
2006-12-02 21:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by MAGNIFICENT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would be unethical. The husband is a friend of yours, and if they are having marital trouble, you should keep your distance, unless you can provide solutions. Moreover, it would not be right for this woman to enter into a new relationship, right after breaking up with her husband, you will end up being on the rebound. You will come out the loser in the end, since you may eventually lose her, and you would also lose a friend.
2006-12-02 21:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by edith i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say this is one of your best idea's...OK if your serious bout this you need to ask yourself these questions: Do you value your friendship with this friend; are you willing to loose the friendship ova a women; and do you really thing you nd this women have a chance.
Bcoz if you really wanna b with this women it is more than likely you will loose this friendship, nd do you really wanna be the rebound guy? coz thats wat you'll b if you get with this women. If you r a true friend you will go no where near this guys soon-to-be ex-wife... i hope you make the rite choice. Jst think off the people that cld be hurt. but ultimately its ur choice so gud luck
2006-12-02 21:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
going after her after they are divorce is OK, but as of now you need to be steady and relax a little. There is really nothing wrong because in the first place you had nothing to do with there divorce right? it's there choice. But before going after her, you had to tell your friend (his soon to be ex-husband) to show your respect for your friend and there previous relationship.
2006-12-02 21:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spent 8 years in the Army and was stationed in three different places in 3 different continents. This happens all the time in the military. Do her, but don't get emotionally involved.
2006-12-02 21:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that's the wrong answer... leave his wife alone and go and find a woman that's not married... your just lonely is all which is understandable considering your situation but going after what you can't have (his wife) will only land you with more problems...
2006-12-02 21:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. You are asking for big trouble if you do that. At least wait until they are divorced. You still might lose a friend. Which one means the most?
2006-12-02 21:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you value your friendship. Don't be that guy. As much as you may like her, there are plenty of single women out there. Or you could always wait till after they get divorced, but I wouldn't recomend it. What ever happend to bros before hos??
2006-12-02 22:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by djkristyleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am apperesate you that you are doing job in best public services?
But I am not agree with you, that you like your friend's wife, but u think in deep & cool mind there is not a sexual attrection with both of u, its of you like your friends wife but lots of alternative ablout relationship maintain with her without breaking relationship with here & with your friends,
Why you not try to solve the problem between your friends & his wife it give better blessing you from both heart if u sussessfull to sort out that matter.
actually i dont know more about your relationship between that matter if u need proper advice please tell me in bref details so i can help you.
Regards,
NISARG,
2006-12-02 21:48:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋