Is it too early to get married?????

Question

I have been with my b/f for 3 years, we live together andwe have been through so much together.

I love him so much and he always tells me he loves me!!

Things are grat in every way i am 19 and he is 21 do you think its too early for us to get married???

i want to be with him forever!!!!!

He also said he wants to be with me forever and he will never want anyone else!!

Answer 1

If you both genuinely love each other then of course it is not too young. You are already living together which is arguably a bigger commitment then getting married anyway!

You also don't seem to be looking at this through rose tinted glasses, & seem very mature for a 19 yr old, if I may say so.

Some people will advise you against it, it is after all a massive commitment. But only you both know how you truly feel about one another.

Some people regret that they didn't do this or that, follow your dream & see where it takes you.

All the best.

Answer 2

people will tell you to wait, I disagree. My lady and I married at 18, I was barely out of high school. That was 27 years ago and still going strong. I think that if you wait, then you begin to get set in your ways and it's difficult to change or compromise. Since you have been together so long, you won't have that problem.
There is one problem that you should be aware of. Since you got together so young, you probably don't have a lot of sex partners in your past. For you that won't be much of a problem but for him it may. He may find himself at 30 looking back and regretting marrying before he was able to s lut it up some. Young marriages sometimes results in later cheating. If this happens to you, don't be too hard on him. It has nothing to do with his love for you. Men have an instinct to spread the seed and controlling that desire can cause more problems than if he was to just go knock off a piece now and then.

Answer 3

DONT DO IT! If you love each other then why the hell do you need a bit of paper to tell you that, divorce can be messy and painfull, I have been married it was when I was 18 and I had 2 kids with her too, the divorce was cos I caught her cheating with a GIRL after 4 years, now I got my girls living with me and 3 other kids with my new other half, we have bee going out 5 years and we wont get married even though we are going to be together forever, and she has been married before too when she was young. Its a waste of money, time and effort.

Answer 4

Follow your heart. If you are even asking this question, then maybe you already answered yourself. Maybe you should wait a few more years or until you know you are ready. People have a change of heart the more that they grow and you are very young. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years now and at 1 year I knew that he was the one that I wanted to be with. We still aren't married though but my point is that I already knew at age 16 what I wanted. Everyone may think thats a young age and I didn't know any better but I was serious about at that age and I am still serious about it right now at age 23. I've grown and I've changed and I have also matured but yet my heart is still in the same place. I knew that I wanted to be with him forever and I still do. If you know for a fact that this is the person that you want, then I say go for it. If you have to question yourself more then I'd suggest that you wait until you have resolved the questions within yourself. Think about your future and think about his and think about how you want to live your future and if you can fit him in your lifestyle changes. Remember, marriage is a big step. Its all up to you.

Answer 5

I can't say that. Go ahead and get married if you each other this much. Don't listen to the people that try to discourage you. However, make sure that there are no children for at least 8 years. If by then you are still together, it would be a good age for you both to have children if you want to. Presumebly, you would be both well into your careers and you will be better off financially to be able to afford the emotional and financial burden of child-bearing.

Answer 6

I think you are both very lucky to find love at such a young age, and no it is not to early to get married at that age. I know some people who have, and are still very happy together. Good luck to the both off you. I only wish I could find love at that age.

Answer 7

No its not to early if youv've been with your boyfriend for three years. As him what he thinks of marriage. I have been with my girlfriend for more than four years I am only 20 and we've been married for about 2 1/2 years.

Answer 8

not too early!! my parents were already married at that age, and a year later i was born. true, these days people often get married at a later time in life, but that's just an average. people get married at a "young" age all the time these days. GO FOR IT!! Good luck.

Answer 9

Ah L'amour...unfortunately it doesn't hang around!

I've been with my partner for 11 years, we are engaged because of pressure from his family, but we are happy the way we are. That's not to say that we won't get married but it isn't essential. What is essential is keeping the relationship balanced and happy.

Have you asked your Boyfriend what he wants? I would say that you need to talk about it before you start planning anything!!

Good Luck for the Future!!!

Answer 10

if you love each other that much.. :/ i would wait AT LEAST one more year, its a big deal getting married its not you get in a dress and have a wedding, its paperwork, and paperwork, and money, and work, its hard. But whatever you feel, if you think you are ready for it go ahead if you think you are too young, wait, if it makes you feel better, my cuzin got married at the age of 15!!!