i have been with my b/f for just over a year and a half and he seems to think that because we have been together for a while that he doesnt need to make the effort. am i asking for too much?
2006-12-02 20:54:56 · 22 answers · asked by jessica f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think he doesn't care he probably doesn't.Confront him, tell him how you feel.If you can't get satisfaction then "Dumpsville population u" is a good line.
2006-12-02 20:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Quick question back - Do you still make an effort?
If the answers no then have a look at both sides of the issue to see where the misunderstanding lies.
Apart from that I'd say he's slacking, familiarity breeds contempt and this is the first sign.
Drop him and see if that has an effect.
2006-12-02 22:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not asking to much. although a relationship will settle into a more steady pattern an not be still allskipping through the flowers all the timeit doesnt mean he shopuld stop caring. relationships never stop needing effort. if hes not prepared to make that effort dont waste any more of your time on him.
2006-12-02 21:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only after a year he's stopped making an effort just think what its gona be like in 2 years,do what right for you your worth so much more.
2006-12-02 21:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by firefly08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not asking for too much, I think if it is really bothering you that much you need to have a talk to him about it. I am sorry I could not be more help than that, but I hope everything works out ok between the two of you good luck.
2006-12-03 01:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No darlin' but understand that guys get comfortable, Its bloody hard work trying to imress a woman you know, all that role play, hard to get act and all the rest of it. He has you now and he wants to rest from the case. He will not change, sorry! But maybe you can hint at a romantic gesture, you know keep him on his toes, ask for flowers and stuff.
2006-12-02 22:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, you aren't asking for too much. But when relationships get old a repetitive that's what happens. Try spicing things up a bit with a date night once a week. Make it a game, try to surprise each other. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-12-02 20:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. The both of you should make an effort to make your relationship grow.
It shouldn't stop when you said yes and accepted his love. It is only the beginning of continuously loving each other.
2006-12-02 21:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
..Not at all, my parents have been together 60 years and they are always making an effort to make the other feel good, It's
great, if you weren't there they would soon miss you
2006-12-02 20:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by sophie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not.
If he won't make an effort now he is most unlikely to do so in the future
Kick him into touch and put it down to experience.
2006-12-02 20:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no your not asking for to much but what exactly are you wanting him to make the effort on.You know unfortunately all guys get comfortable and they stop trying to empress us so they get lazy and some times rude and they don't appreciate any thing its sad but most are like that
2006-12-02 20:59:17 · answer #11 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋