Can I commit adultery if I am not married??

Question

Bible says to look at a woman lustfully is as the sin of adultery. But....if I dont how would I ever think of a wife? If I only look at a single woman my age as a sister, I'd feel like its incest. Thoughts??

Thanks...and tell me how you really feel, dont hold back to make me comfortable with sin. If its sin in your spirit, tell me!

Blessings,
David

I may have worded this wrong....not lustfully seeking a wife....but If I see every girl as a "sister" I could miss my wife, no?

hope that helped

Answer 1

If you are unmarried, you can look at a woman as pretty, someone you would like to get to know better, but not with lust. Lust means that you look at her as sexy and you want to have sex with her. Lust can lead to premarital sex or adultery, if she is married and looks at you with lust as well.

Adultery is only committed if a couple has sexual relationships and one or both of them are married to someone else. If you see a pretty woman and you talk with her and you seem to like each other, have same interests and such, and you want to ask her on a date, that's absolutely fine. As the relationship grows and you fall in love and want to marry her, that's great! But you should want to marry her because you want to spend the rest of your life with her, to live together, to share things together, to have a family, to care for each other, to protect her, to grow old togther. Not just to have sex. Sex is a loving act that God has set aside for married couples. An act to procreate as well.

When in the Bible it talks about lust, it is talking about looking at a women sexually only, having thoughts of having sex with her only. Of course when you fall in love and want to get married, you know you will have sex and think about it, talk about it, but love is more than sex. But sex is for marriage only by God's word.

If you see a woman and talk with her, ask her out on a date, and such, then find out she is married, she is the one that committed adultery, not you, because you didn't know. When you find out she is married, you have to stop seeing her. If you don't, you are being lustful and aiding her in her adultery. Both of you are sinning.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

You should read the books "every man's battle" and "every woman's battle."

To begin with, you can look at a member of the opposite sex and appreciate their beauty. To look with lust in your eyes, however, is sin. You know the difference. You can see a pretty girl and think wow, she's beautiful and then go right on about your day, but if you take it a step further and start imaging doing things with her,or her taking her clothes off, etc, that is wrong.

God made us to be sexual creatures and to enjoy one another, but in the safe confines that he defined for us, and that is marriage. One man, one woman, with Christ at the center of the relationship. Hence, a threefold cord is stronger.

God bless

Answer 5

Jesus said that so that 'religious fanatics' wouldn't be so eager to punish people for sins of fornication and adultery, Jesus basically said that many people are always doing fornication and adultery.

You got to remember that Jesus also don't mind a woman living with a man, eventhough that he's not her husband.

Plus don't forget a adulterous woman and the first one to cast the first stone have to be the one who have no sin.

Answer 6

This is true. A very good question. Maybe we should look for other more important qualities in a person first, besides the physical, the sexual. Maybe we should look at the inside rather than the lust-fullness of our carnal desires. Maybe if people did that divorces would cease to exist.

*edit* That is why I think it is wise to start out as friends.

Answer 7

Dont get hung up on technicalites, or youll end up feeling like your inadequate, just rmember to keep God at the top of you list ad the other thing eventually fall itno order more and more.
There is a diffrence between admiring a woman body and recongizing it as beautiful, which cant be a sin because you would do it automatically and Lust figure out what that difference is!!!


Dont stress yourself out over it!

Answer 8

Yes, you can sleep with a married woman!

The commandments don't specifically address lust for an unmarried woman, but some people say the Bible links the two.

If you are looking for a wife, it is better to look lovingly instead of lustfully, all religions aside!

Answer 9

Well, it says lustfully.
Lust is like when you look at a hot girl with big hooters and stuff, but you're not exactly in love with her right?
You have to be in love with the right woman. Then you can think of her as a wife.
Get a girlfriend (if you don't) and think about the future with her. Would it work?
Good question.

Answer 10

You can look at a woman with the intention that she could be your future wife, lust does not have to come in the picture!