i met a girl recently and this relationship began as a secret admirer type thing- i sent her a poem i wrote for her, after reading her work on my space. we then met in person and exchanged poetry. she said she was falling for me through my writing but when she is around me, she also wrote poems about my eyes and her desire for me. in person, she flirts sometimes or does things which can be seen as flirting. she has to hold back bc she is just starting a relationship with someone else, which was not concrete when we met. is it possible for her to be falling for me based on writing and if she was also attracted to me but trying to stay loyal, might she avoid me and say that we should just e-mail?? i think that she can't be around me bc she already feels attracted to me and doesn't want it to grow.
she said that she can't see me anymore which hurt so i;m trying to understand her. please no "move on" responses bc it isn't that easy
2006-12-02 18:57:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It hurts everyone. It happens everywhere, from the beginnings of mankind. I think she now has a boyfriend whom she chose over you. Fill the space that she left with thoughts of someone new. There will always be somebody else to do.
2006-12-02 19:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Em E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very hard to tell. She may be too new in both relationships to be objective and she is trying to cut out some of the confusion. Could be loyalty to the other and she is trying to be fair to you. It is hard to read the intents of an unknown. It seems very obvious she has feelings that she is fighting for you. But are they strong enough to overcome the other relationship she is in? but then too, sometimes people move on and don't know an easy way to close off a relationship. Is there anyway for you to ask her? Maybe you both should keep friendship an option. sometimes friendship wills out over time if you are meant to be.
2006-12-03 03:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by vennie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our words and poetry always mess with our heads and hearts. I let a male friend read my poetry and he was impressed. He said he couldn't believe all the people I had touched. He didn't care if I was ever published. Less then a month later he was gone. It does hurt. Mine also cut me off, he didn't even say goodbye. He just ignored my e-mails and my phone calls and disappeared. I saw him on myspace. He was going out with someone else.
I pray that your heart and situation will end better then mine has.
I just gave up...
I will hold good thoughts for you....
2006-12-03 03:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...move on is quite the cliche. And moving on never is easy. But sometimes it's what you need to do. If you knew you were getting into something, and then you found something else. Wouldn't you want to avoid the thing that would tempt you to do what you thought was wrong? Unless you can convince her that she should go to you instead of that other person, then you'll have to live with the "move on" cliche.
2006-12-03 03:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she fell in love with the writing and is afraid to fall for the writer if you know what I mean.
Give her time to work on this relationship since that is what she chooses to do, stay in touch, and make sure she is aware that you are there. That is about all you can do for now.
HTH and Good Luck!
2006-12-03 03:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it....but i think she's just more interested in the other guy. It may hurt her to be around you, but if she wanted to be with you instead of this guy, she knows you are interested. I'm sorry. But don't hold out for this chick. Remember the old adage...the best way to get over somebody...is to get under somebody. Good luck, luvy.
2006-12-03 03:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably likes the attention you give her. It makes her feel special. But she likes whoever she is seeing too. If you like her a lot, I would recommend giving her the space she needs. It would be disrespectful to ignore the fact that she wants to persue this other person.
2006-12-03 03:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by meep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋