i have a good friend who i have known for almost my whole life. when i was 12 he gave me my first kiss. since then we have just been great friends but have always loved each other, but maintained our obligations to our religion.
about a month or two ago he approached me with the idea of getting married. he didnt propose... he just asked me if how i felt about this idea. i told him i definitely wasnt opposed but since i am only 18 and he is only 20 we should think about it a little bit more first.
two weeks from that i found out he slept with a someone on one of his business trips. he recently smoked weed. and also, he says that he has come close to having sexual relations with another man.
he claims that he was in a state of depression (both of his parents passed away recently) and that is the only reason these things happened. he is very sorry and wants to make a life together and do right by me.
does anyone think there is anything left to salvage here?
2006-12-02 18:48:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe the questions you ask yourself determine your life.
I am very impressed with this question. Please do not loose this skill you have.
does anyone think there is anything left to salvage here?
I think there is. Your worth salvaging. You a beautiful and intelligent person. At 18 years old you had the intelligence to put up the red flag even when dealing with someone older than you. You know the answer too. You just want to be told your doing the right thing. If this guy was perfect; I and many others, would say hold off if at all possible.
Something more important is to only practice safe sex. If your boyfriend is experimenting how are you sure he is practicing safe sex with his gay partners. He could have been testing the waters with you. To see what you would say. He might be dating a Republican Congressman or a church leader in Colorado having gay meth sex parties.
Tell him you love him and want to wait til we are older. If he breaks up with you and it turns out I am wrong I will marry you.
2006-12-02 19:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 15:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He doesn't seem that he has allot of issues to deal with (his parents) and maybe not even clear on which gender he would like to be with. He does sound like he needs a friend to lean on but you being with him right now does not even sound close to wise. Maybe if he clears his head and deals with the other issues then in time you will know if you guys are meant to be together. Trust your gut!!
2006-12-02 18:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think he showed his true colors. Relationships are hard, they have there ups and downs, but those were extremes. Question is, will he ever be in another deep state of depression in his life?
2006-12-02 18:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by MR.D LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well losing his parent (sorry to hear that)...has NOTHING to do with him coming close to sleeping with a man....or sleeping with women on the road. Maybe keep him as a friend, and help him through his jam...but the realationship, I would say no, but the decision is yours!
2006-12-02 18:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young to worry about salvaging anything. You should enjoy you're youth while you have it. This dude already has too much baggage.
2006-12-02 18:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose so since his parents just died and if he never went through that stage in college hes just really depressed and not sure what to do and thats why he did weed prob. im not sure why he jus went brokeback mountain on you though.
2006-12-02 19:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooooooooooooooo dont beleve in sex yea if he drink its ok if he not work its ok so come to india what im doing its work chuye
2006-12-04 05:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please give it time trust me marraige does not improve anything. i have been married 4 times it is not the answer. you will get hurt badly and then your on your own
2006-12-02 20:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by hfroggie2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2006-12-02 18:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by rose 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋