I'm married with 1 child & I want to go back to school to finish my BS in Nursing. How? Help!?

Question

I am happily married with 1 1/2 yr. old boy. We are financially stable, we are home owners, hubby works for the Fed. Gov't. We just moved to a new home about 4 hrs. away from my parents. Before I gave birth, I was already doing the RN -Nursing Program and due to the hectic clinical rotations and school homeworks..I decided to stop school for a while and focus my attention to my newborn and family life. So, now that my son is a 1 1/2 yrs. old, I'm thinking of going back to school again so I can start working & make big bucks! The problem is, I don't want to leave my
son to a day-care or nanny, I don't trust those people. Basically, I want to take care of my son & my husband and be able to be the perfect Mom and Wife and still be able to finish my school and hopefully work as an RN & help out people. I know this is possible because I'm motivated and always been independent. But I need some suggestion...thanks!

My husbands work schedule changes every 4 months and the Clinical rotations in the program changes every 2 weeks. My parents work full-time also. Sorry, I wouldn't want my son to be in day-care or with a nanny. I don't have any friends in our area at all, we just moved to this home 1 yr. ago

Answer 1

This may not be what you wanted to hear, but I think you should wait until your son is in preschool to start RN school. I am currently in a 2 year program and my kids are 11 & 15 and I still have guilt about the time I am away from them. Since you were already in a program, you know how demanding it is. If you aren't willing to put your son in daycare while you are at school and clinicals... you need to be realistic and ask yourself about the time you would be away from him to study/research. It's not the worst thing in the world to wait until your son is older to finish your education. A very smart woman once told me, "You can have it all, you just can't have it all at once!" So be the best mom you can be right now. Not everyone has the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. I am so grateful that I was able to be home with my children when they were younger, I don't regret it one bit! Good luck to you! You sound like a terrific mom and I'm sure you will make it work out.

Answer 2

Well, by saying "I don't trust those people" about people you've never met, you sure aren't doing your son any favors. You're teaching skepticism, judgement and possibly hatred of perfect strangers.

Children learn new things, make friends and develop socially when placed into daycare or nanny situations.

Secondly, you shouldn't have to "take care of" your husband. If and when you decide to go back to school, he should be happy to take on half of the household duties - laundry, cleaning, cooking meals when you get caught up with class or homework, etc. Perhaps you can take night classes while he watches the baby.

As motivated and independent as you may be, you CAN'T be in more than one place at a time. We all have to make sacrifices at some point, so decide what your priorities are, talk to your husband and take it from there.

Answer 3

Go to a school that offers online courses. In nursing, it is not completely online, but you can get most of your classes online. Perhaps you have a parent, friend, neighbor, relative or someone who can watch your child while you go to any classes that you must personally attend.

I am going back to school right now with 3 kids and take my classes that I have to take personally at night. The rest I do on internet. I don't have to leave my kids with anyone.

There are also schools that you only have to attend on the weekends. If your husband is off on weekends that would be perfect for you.

Look into the schools and what they offer and good luck to you.

Answer 4

I have had my Rn since 92 and just completed the bsn- via NMSU=took some odd classes elsewhere online- like history and art appreciate- depending on where you are- there may be a program- check online for nursing programs- did you get your associates degree?? that would help and take less time and clinicals- than the bsn- Univ of Phoenix has and rn to bsn program online-and an rn program- they are almost 500 a credit- where NMSU online is 129 for upper div. online- big difference- you may want to shop around online-D

Answer 5

I was a VERY mature student when I gained my degree. Although my children were almost grown, my handicapped and vulnerable daughter needed constant care and supervision. Research and study is extremely demanding.

If you are so motivated to finish your studies, you don't need the worry of constant dramas in your childcare. Your child needs above all to establish a *trusting relationship with someone who will be constant in their lives. Seek out a childcarer whom you feel you can trust; work with him or her over a period of time before resuming your studies. Take up references, speak to former employers on the 'phone and ensure your carer has met all the criteria in your country for working with children such as first aid and food hygiene. Not every stranger is a child molester. *Research indicates that family members most often abuse. Your childcarer may well become a lifelong friend - as has the carer of my daughter. We have acquired another treasured grandma in effect. Good luck.

Answer 6

Hard one I also left during my L&D rotation (when I gave birth to my daughter) I was 1 year in & have to start from the beging, so make sure you are ready... I decided to wait, I am as you should be a LPN by now so I work a few times a months to keep my state licenece

Answer 7

Well either your husband is around while you are in class or you have to trust your child to day care.

You know most colleges have day care programs that are incredible. Good learning opportunities for her son.

Trust people, most of us are really good people and would take great care of your son.

Answer 8

you could take him to your mom during school. There is something called trustline it has a listing of child care providers that have passed a backround check and have no felonies or anything like that.

Answer 9

Why don't you take your son to your parents while your gone,pick him it up and then do it again.If not that find someone you can really trust to take care of him.

Answer 10

I don't see how it is possible if you don't want to leave him with anyone. He would have to go somewhere once you got a job anyway.