My son is bipolar, daughter in law is ADHD and my grandaughter is 18 months and she is pregnant with another. She is 22 and is insane. She is keeping me and my husband away from our granddaughter. My son just goes along with her so he wont have problems.
I bought them a car, they stayed with me rent free several times. My daughter in law shoved me against the wall and I have a torn rotator cuff. I called the police. There was no physical evidence so they dismissed it. I told them they could spend the night but to get the hell out the next day.
My grandaughter and I have a special bond. I want to see her. What about Grandparents rights and how much does it cost?
Please help.
Thanks.
2006-12-02 18:23:49 · 6 answers · asked by msflightatt 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You should be able to go down to the local courthouse and pick up a packet for about $5. My father and grandmother both filed for grandparents rights from my ex sister in law. My brother is schizophrenic and his ex would not allow him to see his son privately and denied him visitation, which made things even harder for him. That is when my parents and grandmother both went and filed for grandparents rights and now get visitation every Sunday. My brother gets to see his son this way, also.
Good Luck and go for it. Your granddaughter needs a stabel role model in her life. She's lucky to have you.
2006-12-02 20:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Wizard 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you in Australia? If not this info might not be right for you...
My parents went for Grandparent rights for their grandchildren but not actual custody. I also have a friend of mine who has gone through the court to get custody of her grandkids. Any kind of legal action like these is going to cost you in the short term. However, if you win then the other party has to pay the costs. If you lose you will have to pay both sides.
If i were you i would go and see a lawyer. Find a really good one, you will have to pay but if you are really keen on doing this and really love your granddaughter i think you should go for it. Not only for your sake but for the kids safety- by the sounds of things she isn't in a healthy home. If you live in Sydney i know a good lawyer that my parents saw so just e-mail me for the address and name. If not just look one up. Good luck.
2006-12-03 02:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Klingon Atheist 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I personally do not like the idea of grandparents rights, when it is because the grandma doesn't get along with her grandchilds parent. You didn't metion what you did that made her shove you against the wall. I think that their are always two sides to each story, and she may say that you give her good reason to do the things she does. Who knows, but we are only getting your side, so it is hard to say if you have the moral right to get grandparents rights.
Instead of creating more of a problem by getting the law involved, why don't you make a real effort to try to resolve the problem with your daughter-n-law? If that means, eating your pride for the sake of your granddaughter, and apologizing even if you don't think you are wrong, then I say you need to do it.
How would you feel if you didn't get along with your mother-n-law, and she turned around and tried to use the court system to get visitation rights for your child, that you gave birth to?
My ex-mother-n-law threatened to do that to me, just because I wouldn't get back with her son and because I wouldn't cower down to her and him. She didn't get grandparents rights, but I still have bitter feelings towards her, just simply because she tried to get them. Do you want that to happen between you and your sons wife? Especially since he is still with her?
For your sons and granddaughters sake, I hope that you don't
2006-12-03 03:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well sorry to say but Grandparental rights laws have been abolished in most sates ( I beleive 35 no longer have them) I live in Michigan & they did away with them 5 or 6 years ago. So talking it out with your son or not seeing your Grand daughter may be the outcome...sorry.
If you add to details which state you live in I can see if your state still has the law on th books.
2006-12-03 02:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Little Mer...
Try counceling, etc. If you take thier children think of the guilt you will feel and confusion of the children for years and years to come. That will probably cause an irreparable rift between you. But now you have a chance to work this out.
IF you actually care.
2006-12-03 11:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by poof 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
There are lots of cases floating around on the web. You could Google "grandparents rights" and your state to find information.
2006-12-03 02:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋