Ok honestly I don't understand....I am 21 yrs old, attractive, smart, got things going for me, know what I want to do with my life, but I just can't seem to find any good guys. I had been on a few online dating sites and I'd either meet guys that I didn't click with or ones I did click with but that were jerks. I always hear these lame excuses about how they are too busy to be in relationships. What can I do to meet normal men?? Are there any out there that actually want relationships??? And I'm on these sites because I don't like to pick up men in bars. Please tell me what I can do...I'm about to give up on men because its very frustrating.
2006-12-02 18:23:40 · 18 answers · asked by Laura S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What kinds of activities do you like? I'm asking because I know there are a lot of clubs out there where people get together to do things, like mountain bicycking, climbing clubs, scrabble clubs, computer clubs, garden clubs etc. There are tons of different ones. Figure out what you like to do....make sure its the kind that both sexes enjoy, then join a couple of them and you could meet guys who have something in common with you.
2006-12-02 18:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your doing the right thing by not going to bars to pick up guys. Some people are a little more unique than others. Stick to it and don't settle for anything less than the perfect guy for you. I've been on quite a few dates and still haven't really found anything I'm looking for. If your frustrated take a break from the dating scene and just try to make friends you find the one you are looking for is right under your nose. I've been doing the same thing as far as on-line dating sites go and haven't had a lot of luck there. I wouldn't mind meeting you, but sadly we probably live on opposite sides of the country.
2006-12-02 18:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Laura S,
Step away from the computer and get out into the real world. Guys are not going to notice you unless you get out and be seen by them. Most guys your age are too young to really be in a relationship and are too busy working on their careers. Try older guys. They might be more interested in a relationship.
You may hate the bar scene, but bars are regular sausage fests and that's where you will find the most men for the least amount of time and energy on your part. Otherwise you should join a gym or some other activity where men and women meet. How about political groups, church, or favorite charities that you believe strongly in? Get out and get more involved in the real world.
Best of luck to you.
--Rick
2006-12-02 19:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 13:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in my experience, people find what they're looking for when they stop looking so hard.
Second of all, I'd imagine there are more predatory men on online dating sites than the average college fraternity.
Join clubs. Join a co-ed sports league. Find groups of people doing things you like to do, and you'll start running into the right men.
2006-12-02 18:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by dondo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say "heres my number" but I am a bit older and Im sure you want someone a bit younger than I,, But its the same way on my end,, I cant meet a decent woman if my life depended on it, and I think my life does depend on it, and its the same way for us,, the females we meet are either to stuck on themself they cant get away from the mirror, or they are Egotistical, self-centered, materialistic, "what can you do for me?", F you ***** that I have had the pleasure to meet,,, ( I actually told an Ex that when we were breaking up, her reply- "I know")
2006-12-02 22:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, you have plenty of time. Try opening your eyes a little wider, there is someone standing next to you looking for the same thing. But at 21, are you really ready?? Are you secure without a relationship??
2006-12-02 18:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by i8thr2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please continue your search and do not hurry things as the marriages are made in heaven, the meaning being that things has to happen when it does. Doing in a hesitation may result in a disaster. This is a question of selecting life partner not dress material. In having patience GOD will sure help you. Finally I appreciate your frankness in this regard.
2006-12-02 18:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop trying so hard. Mr Right will come. You are only 21 babe. Def. don't go on online dating. (99/100) guys are total guy-hookers and don't really want a relationship. (Dr Phil is a lier about Match.com!!!)
2006-12-02 19:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by hey_its_from_clare 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good question, i got the same exact problem. i just dont know how to help you find someone. unfortunately my best suggestion would be just to enjoy being single right now and go out and have fun, do things that you dont usually do and maybe you'll find someone in a new spot. good luck!
2006-12-02 18:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by mink_kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋