I am way too young 2 have this kid, seriously (im 15). I keep wanting to think up cute baby names but It would make it harder to do it if I decide to abort it. This really sucks and i need help cuz my bf will dump me if i ask him to raise a baby w/ me =(
2006-12-02 18:23:22 · 16 answers · asked by killerkitty557 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'll actually answer your question instead of telling you what to do.
You shouldn't be picking names; you should be talking to a counselor about your options. And dumping your boyfriend. He'd leave you? Then leave him! You're 15 ... there are plenty of fish in the sea. Nicer ones, at that.
Call Planned Parenthood. They can set up a free appointment with a counselor to discuss everything and help you think about it. If you decide to have the baby they'll get you prenatal care. If you don't, they'll help with that too. They will NOT pressure you either way. Their number is 1-800-230-PLAN.
You can think about names after you decide what to do. If you decide to have it and keep it, you can think of names to your heart's content. If you go for adoption, you can still give him/her a name at birth. If you decide to have an abortion (which is YOUR choice), you still might want to give him/her a name. Some women find it helpful.
No matter what your choice Planned Parenthood can also help with counseling for afterward. Either way you'll need someone to talk to about your feelings.
Call Monday. Someone will answer anytime on a weekday between 8 and 5.
2006-12-02 18:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First thing first, if your bf is planning on dumping you because both of you had sex without precaution (or the condom broke, etc) then you should dump his *** for putting you in an unnecessary predicament.
Then you have to decide if you are going to raise this baby. You can either put it up for adoption, keep it, or abort it. Personally, I don't favor abortion, but I don't think it should be illegal. I urge you to consider giving it up for adoption so that someone who cannot have children can raise the child.
No matter what you do, you will always think of the baby, whether you keep it or not. Giving the baby a name will draw you closer but it could be a painful memory.
I can't tell you what to do and I don't envy you making such a hard decision. But it has to be your decision, free from a boyfriend who is not likely to be around anyway.
2006-12-02 20:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh poor you, your boyfriend my dump you!! So what? If he is going to dump you for him getting you pregnant, then why would you want him?
I will say though, that just reading your question, shows me that you are very immature. You are sitting there thinking about cute names for this baby, at the same time you are thinking about aborting it????? Tipical of a teenager. You need to somehow make contact with an adoption agency and find a couple who will take you in for the duration of your pregnancy and who wants to adopt the baby.
You shouldn't have been having sex at 15 if you were not prepared to raise a child. This isn't a game!!! This is an innocent life, that you now hold in your hands. This poor baby is not to blame for you and your boyfriend choice.
OH MY GOSH, ARE YOU PEOPLE SERIOUS!?!?!!? Name a baby that you are going to abort?????? Geez, sounds like something on Jerry Springer. Yeah, sure, name a baby and then murder it!! Makes alot of sense. That should really help with the guilt!!!!
2006-12-02 18:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I was 16 when I had my daughter. If you dont want your baby then please dont name it. you will have a horrible time dealing with your decsion in time to come.....can you image sitting about watching your kids you may have in ten years time thinking 'I wonder what it would be like if little johnny/sarah were here.' talk about torture.
I really think you should think about your decision, keep it or not.
I was lucky that I was mature and had spent alot of time around babies and children, and I had a natural liking for nurturing kids (I am now a pre-school teacher) you got to think about how your life will change if you keep the baby in regards to your friends wont have much in common with you after the baby, and parties and going out may not be as frequent. But you will at some time in your life feel like you made a mistake if you abort. Try your hardest to make a mature adult descion. and if you do abort, make sure your sensible next time you decide to be an adult and have sex.
2006-12-02 18:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is a person, and deserves a name. I agree with another answer on this board; you don't sound like you want to abort. Be careful when making your decision; if you will regret killing this baby, don't do it. You may be too young to have a baby, but you are way, way too young to have this weighing on your conscience for the rest of your life. If your boyfriend doesn't care enough about you to respect your decision, not to mention your emotional and physical (abortions are very risky) health, he really is not worth it. You deserve better.
2006-12-02 19:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by clonus86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're bf is going to dump you because you keep the baby, then you'd be better off without him in the first place.
It is your choice of what you're going to do with your body, but don't let someone else's actions (or irresponsibilities) be the verdict. It is YOUR decision, YOU will live with the results more than anyone else.
As for naming the baby, if you do choose abortion, a name can help with the greiving that you'll experience afterwards.
Good luck and make the best decision for you, not your bf!
2006-12-02 18:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you are young, this is your child. I am not going to lecture you about this, as I know this isn't why you are on here. If you are aborting your baby b/c of your bf, then you might want to consider what your doing. As to me it looks like you are willing to give your baby up just to please him. For all you know he could leave you anyways even if you do abort. He isn't really the one I would be turning to for support, as he seems he is lacking.
Please just realize that you are 15, and this may affect you later on in life if you choose to go through with this. How far along are you?
as for naming the baby, it makes me feel like you are already getting connected to your unborn child.
2006-12-03 07:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by mke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't have sex at 15, or use protection. Second, if are going to have an abortion, do it only if YOU want it, and not because of your boyfriend. (you can always find another one) If you are going to have an abortion, or give it up for adaption, Don't think up any names becuase it will make it only harder for you to depart from him/her. Try not to get attached to it. As far as the names go, come up with names when you're not pregnant--a lot of girls have names for their non-existant babies. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-02 18:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were serious about having an abortion, and had no doubts, you wouldn't even want to think up baby names.
You should go talk to a counselor about your options here. Maybe your parents would help you raise the baby, or maybe you can put it up for adoption.
2006-12-02 18:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think of names for this baby so that you won't be able to have an abortion. There are alot of people who would love to adopt your baby. Even if you have the baby and leave him/her in the hospital, someone wants your baby even if you don't wanna take care of him/her right now.
2006-12-02 18:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nickey b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋