does every couple get married??

Question

My partner and I have been together for 3 years.
We are currently 37 weeks pregnant (planned)
He was married to the mother of his almost 4 year old, now divorced.
I have a 5 year old.
our baby was planned, but we fell pregnant a month ahead of schedule (planning to give birth late jan early feb, instead late dec early jan.) I think my partner had planned to propose before I fell pregnant, so that he didnt feel pressured by his highly religious family to get married before the babies birth-as he did in his previous marriage which ended in divorce- I therefore told him that he had better not ask me to marry him simply because his dad thinks it is not the right thing to do. (our baby will be loved regardless of a ring) the problem is that I am not religous and there fore think that a wedding is simply a fancy dress party that costs alot, my partner sees it as a promise to each other in the 'eyes of god' any opinions on this?

Answer 1

It doesn't sound like either one of you hold marriage in high regard. If so, he'd still be married to the mother of his 3-year old child! Don't worry- these second wives/second baby deals rarely last.

Answer 2

First of let me say that I really like your partner.
No not every couple gets married. If you two are planning on spending the rest of your lives together why not get married? Marriage isn't bad. Just because it failed for him before doesn't mean it can't work for you both now. If you two really love each other you should both go for it. It seems that you both care. Marriage is after all a promise to love and cherish each other. Think of all the added benefits there are if you two do get married verses if you both were just living together. Him wanting to marry you could be him saying that he wants everyone to know that you are his. To make it official to everyone. Ask him what he really wants. Thats the best way to solve this problem.

Answer 3

Not all, but , you should. Especially if you are living together and having kids together. Why wouldnt you want to get married? Trust issue? All you have to do is get marriage license and go to courthouse. You dont have to do anything big. Or hire a justice of the peace and find a spot you both like and xchange vows. I was 6mnths prego with my 1st marriage and married in courthouse-NOT FUN. Dont marry or stay together for the kids, but if you are happy together, why not marry?? I'll be remarried in Feb07 and having a small wedding at a chapel (10 ppl). We've been living together for 7 mnths. BUT, I told him the only way I would live with him is if we are getting married-since I have a 3yr old from another marriage.
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Answer 4

It is a myth that marriages often ends up in divorce. If you or your partner are afraid to get married, it just proves that you are not quite sure about your feelings for each other. Deep inside, you feel that marriage will change things, make you love less and end in a "mutual" separation or a divorce. If the two of you think that you have found your soulmates in each other, what's stopping you from getting married?

Your marriage will give stability to your children.

Answer 5

The wedding itself is a religous ceremony and a party, yes. But the marriage licence has a lot of legal implications. It would legally bind you two together and give each other rights. It's something to consider if you're going to be together for the rest of your lives. I agree with you guys though, it's not something to do because others think you should.

Answer 6

I think the ceremony is a promise to you from your partner in front of god and your family that they will love you for the rest of your life. I thinkt he ceremonies are heartfelt and shows love but it has to mean something to both people not just one. Have a small wedding, elope if that will make your spouse happy.
I have seen couples, like my parents live together for years without getting married. My parents lasted 15 years without marriage. My uncle lasted 11 years with one woman and 9 years with another without marrying them. So it's basically up to you both.

Answer 7

Of each and every of the married couples all of us comprehend, my spouse's cousin is the purely one all of us comprehend of who has cheated. all of us comprehend about 30 couples. some married a lengthy time period and others married this 12 months. humorous element is, the writing became on the wall previously they were given married (my spouse's cousin) and in accordance to my spouse, they ought to have by no ability were given married first of all. She is disillusioned in her cousin for dishonest on his spouse and we experience that dishonest has flags doping up way previously human beings get married. In her cousin's case, he wasn't ever in love such as her first of all. even though it isn't purely adult men who cheat, women do too. Our pal's sister were given divorced very last 12 months after she cheated on her husband and she or he idea there became no longer something incorrect with it. She became bored being a stay-at-abode mom or perhaps as she were given the children off to varsity, she did her element. She nevertheless acts like it became ok or as if she became justified in her movements.

Answer 8

Marriage is a promise to each other to love and commit to each other. It says to anyone that your love each other. You dont have to spend alot to get married so dont look at the cost when it comes to it you can just do something simple with your family and thats enough aslong as you both are happy.

Answer 9

Not every couple decides upon marriage. It just doesn’t work for everyone. Marriage is a decision to be made by two people, not their family members or religion. Marry when it’s right, and only then.

Answer 10

No, every couple do not get married, weddings are very expensive in some countries. In such cases when couples are not well-off financially, they may prefer to remain un-married for the rest of their lives ; but they remain loyal friends and companions until death parts them.