When my GF and I are watching a movie/TV/commercial/etc if a good looking woman as defined by our society appears on the television and I do not turn away from the television my GF sometimes thinks that it is because I am attracted to the woman? So my question is this: Is it fair that I should have to feel uncomfortable watching programs with my GF? And should I just "give in" and turn away whenever a woman appears on the screen to save myself a possible argument?
2006-12-02 18:20:32 · 11 answers · asked by entropy1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To answer a question asked, yes it is PG13, not porn!
2006-12-02 18:26:25 · update #1
u can still watch tv with your gf.....just whenever a pretty girl comes by, don't stare as if u're interested.......that's it...good luck!!
2006-12-02 18:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is such a sign of low self esteem. It is the most destructive quality that a person (man or woman) can possess. There is nothing you can do about it and it will most likely not get better until she gets help with it and/or gains some maturity.
Most woman who are as yealous as your GF (even to the point of what's on TV and most likely unattainable) have probably run off enough men that they are unable to have healthy relationship. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. You might try saying something like this next time she starts complaining. "Yes, I find that woman attractive, but I am here with you and that's because that's where I'd rather be. After time, with patience, and understanding it's possible that you can at least have a peaceful friendship.
Because what jealousy does is, it crowds out love and refuses to let it be real. How can you love someone if you can't trust anyone?
2006-12-02 18:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visually focused so if an attractive woman is on a show or whatever, most men like to look at them. It is not fair and you should not feel uncomfortable watching programs with you gf. How about good looking men? Will she turn away from the TV if a good looking man is on? If she says it's not the same thing, well it sure has hell is.
Her issue is low self-esteem and there is only so much a man can do about this as she has to raise herself by herself. No one can do it for her. You can compliment her 24/7 but it would be worthless if she herself doesn't believe it. Don't let her self-esteem issues turn into control issues.
2006-12-02 18:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is self-esteem or possibly body image problem. No, I don't think you have to turn away (I assume we are talking public TV, not porn) because this is PG13 material.
Try the following: prepare a good sincere speech about how much you like her body. Make it good, honest and long one. Sit her down, give her the speech. Finish it off with something along the lines: "i don't want to hear about you getting jealous over TV commercials". And don't forget a kiss. She actually might need therapy...
2006-12-02 18:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to turn away, it's perfectly normal to look. Having said that, I don't know your past. If you have given her some reason to be concerned with women in the past can you really blame her for questioning you now. But if that's not the case, maybe it's self esteem. Instead of turning away then, say things like how she would be better on the television then the actress, or other things that make her feel positive about herself.
2006-12-02 18:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to turn away everytime an attractive woman appears on the screen you might as well not watch tv or go to the movies together. no offense but girlfriend's got issues.
2006-12-02 18:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by icu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gf has some serious self esteem issues. do you compliment her enough? have you ever put her down for her looks? if not then the problem is her not you. she may also have some trust issues. has she had alot of bad experiences with ex boyfriends? if you love her and want to work on the relationship then try to build her self esteem and trust in you. Remember: communication is the key.
2006-12-02 18:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not fair. My guy & I know that we look at other people. As long as that's it. It is natural for us to see someone that is attractive & look. My bf points out on TV if he thinks someone is pretty & I may agree but I know that doesn't make him think less of me. It may be insecurity
2006-12-02 18:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm physco does she do this in real life with real women. She probably has self esteem issues, and feels little compared to someone more beautiful , so try to reassure how much you love her and noone else and how beautiful she is etc, if this doesnt work, i would suggest she sees someone
2006-12-02 18:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Biggy17620 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geee..maybe when she is trying to talk to you and you stare at the t.v then maybe that really makes her feel like crap
IT IS NOT JELOUSY....TRUST ME ..SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE THOSE WOMEN SHE JUST DOESNT WANT YOU TO STARE WHILE SHE IS TRYING TO TALK TO YOU...STOP ACTING LIKE SHE IS NOT WORTH LOOKING AT AND MAYBE SHE WONT FEEL UGLY.......EVEN THOUGH SHE ISNT
2006-12-02 18:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋