my boyfriend is 16 and ready to have sex and im only 14 and not ready. i really like this guy though and he likes me alot. we are already talking bout marrage and we have been dating for 2 years. should i go on with it??
2006-12-02 18:08:41 · 36 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, of course not. Don't be silly!
2006-12-02 18:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are 14 yrs old. Say that to yourself a few times and hopefully some sence will kick in. Just because you like someone or think you might be in love does not mean you have to have sex. Sex does not make any relationship stronger. If you both care about each other you can wait. There will be many people in your life that you will love but does not mean you need to be with them or have sex. You should not be put into that kind of pressure. You have so much more growing uo to do. YOu are taking so many risks. What if you get pregnant????Condoms are not 100%. Have you heard of hpv, it is a virus that can be contracted through sex and cause cancer. STDS. Did you know that HIV is small enough to pass through the microscopic holes in condoms???? Not trying to scare you but its just not something a 14yr old kid should not be worried about. Date around as friends and you wont look back and regret that you lost something that is special. you will be so much more happier when you realize how luck it is to be a virgin and pure. DOnt give up and be weak. You can wait. If it helps talk to your parents, school counselor, or school nurse about this situation.BE STONG AND THINK FOR YOURSELF,FIGHT THE TEMPTATION. YOU WILL BE A MUCH STRONGER WOMEN AND APPRECIATE IT LATER.
2006-12-02 18:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sheesh some people have really attacked you on this!
Anyway.... , heres my two pence worth:
I think that if you are not ready you should wait until you are. Other wise you might regret it at a later stage. Explain how you feel to your boyfriend. He should understand your feelings so don't be scared.
Also at this stage it is illegal and if anybody to find out (aka your parents/ gaurdian) then they could say that its rape. So tread carefully in whatever decision you make.
But just remember that with sex comes responsibility, You need to make sure that he uses a condom and also becareful of STDs. After all I don't think that you would want a baby at this stage.
Relationships seem to change once you have sex with someone. It can go one of two ways:
1) It becomes akward and you break up (or he got what he wanted and left)
2) It can bring you closer and make the relationship last.
Generally the thing that happens is no1. Basically because people wern't ready when they did it. And they feel Violated and can't handle it.
Spend sometime and think about it.
If I was in your situation I would wait a while. And see which way the wind blows. It would also depend on what He says when I tell him. If that was all he wanted he would have a fight and break it off. But if it was someone who intended to spen the rest of his life with me he would have to understand it and accept that I was not ready.
2006-12-02 18:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are going to do what you want to regardless of what I say but here goes anyway... I think that if you are not ready then you should wait. Why do something and regret it later? You are the only one who is going to have to live with it. If things don't work out with your boyfriend after you have given up the most precious gift in the world, then what? Think about it. Take your time because you will never get to take it back.
2006-12-02 18:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT GO with it!!! You're both not ready for the consequences that may occur afterwards...
1. You may have a baby because of this.
2. You are not ready to have your own family.
3. Be aware of STD
Does your boyfriend knows how to use condom? Do you use anti-pregnancy pills? See.. you are so young for this.
If you GO, and give it to your boyfriend, he will ask for more. wHAT if your parents find out? How's your education and support will be?
2006-12-02 18:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to say no on that....the only reason he's talking about marriage with you is to get in your pants. You got alot of growing up, don't ruin it yet. I wouldnt think about marriage for awhile. Trust me on this, have fun and experience life. I wouldnt consider marriage until your mid 20s early 30s. You really understand your self at that point and ready to make future life long plans for yourself.
2006-12-02 18:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready and he is serious about your relationship he will respect your decision and wait. But if he dosen't really love and respect you he will probably keep pushing until you end up giving in or giving up your relationship
Respect yourself enough to stand your ground and just a reminder boys will say whatever they think you want to hear to get what they want, but once you give it to them they tend to act differently towards you, they start to expect it everytime they see you
2006-12-02 18:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do that baby. U2 are just kids... how did you think of mrrage?1 you did`nt see any other boy yet... open your eyes. dont do something that you be sorry in the future.you are in an age that everybody fall in love (not a true one)just be with him & be nice to each other & when you are older (2 years)then do what ever you want . but dont get pregnant befor being married!!!
2006-12-02 18:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Fourteen is too young, even in today's world. If he really cares about you, he will not pressure you. Even if you like him a lot, and he you, it isn't right for him to bug you about it.
One thing to remember: even if you were to use contraception, it isn't always 100% effective. Would you and he be mature, capable, and responsible enough to handle consequences such as STD's or pregnancy?
And talking about marriage is also premature. Enjoy being a kid and doing things w/friends. If you give in to pressure for fear of "losing him," then he's not giving you respect and you are not respecting your own beliefs.
2006-12-02 18:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, don't. There is plenty of time. You have a lot to experience before marriage. I'm 28 & I still have a lot to do before I settle down with my guy.
2006-12-02 18:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, No and that you're not ready for sex. I would wait on the marriage since you both are very young and still in school, perhaps?
2006-12-02 18:15:34 · answer #11 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋