My bestfriend is a cocaine addict.....and she started to hang with her old crowd. And I am afraid she might use again....how should I help her stay clean??
2006-12-02 17:56:09 · 13 answers · asked by *you make me feel invisible* 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Stay in prayer and be supportive. Don't judge this person and be a friend. Don't let this person hang around the "old" crowd or go to places where drugs will likely be. Find new places and clean friends. But mostly, listen, and be understanding to this person's addiction.
2006-12-02 17:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can only do it for herself, not for anyone else, including you. You can't stop her if she really wants to relapse. You could remind her of where she was at before she stopped using. Remind her of all the negatives that her drug usage brought into her life. But in the end, it's up to her to keep her sobriety, because afterall, it is "HER" sobriety....no one else's.
If she stopped by using Narcotics Anonymous and had a sponsor, maybe you can contact that person and tell them you're getting worried and why. They may be able to help. At the very least, they know what your friend is going through and will be better equipped to handle it.
2006-12-03 02:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by davega7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey - the simple truth is YOU can't help her to stay clean.
That is something only she can do! It's something she has to want. It's sad but true.
I've just been through it with a friend of mine. The one thing you can do is to tell her that you care about her but if she starts using again you want NO part of it. It sounds mean but its the best thing. I did that and at first my friend hated me but now we are closer than ever. She said my harsh words reminded her about what was important.
Good luck
2006-12-03 02:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go to CA or NA meetings. Offer to accompany her. Even if you are not an addict you can attend "open" meetings.
A recovering addict or alky must find new friends and new hangouts to stay clean.
2006-12-03 02:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by m. b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for her and if she really wants to be clean she will stay away from the people who use. she has to make the choice to be clean all you can do is tell her you are there for her if she wants your help it will be hard for her but of all the drugs she could take this is the easiest one to kick she just real has to want to kick the habit good luck and just be a real friend
2006-12-03 02:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by krazy4_coke2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure she is using...get help from her family and other clean friends, then take all her possessions away from her to show her the reality of her addiction.
2006-12-03 02:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by leifving 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Only an addict can stop themselves. Be confrontive, not enabling. Go to an al-anon group for yourself to learn more about the harm "helping" can do not only for the addict but for yourself.
2006-12-03 09:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with birgit. my stepdad was a hard user and hes clean [[struggling, but clean]] alcoholics and narcotics and drug addicts anonymous really helps because you talk to people with the same problems as you. search up a group near you on the internet. They're free and there for her!
2006-12-03 05:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by chickalade_star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her to narcotics anonymous meetings often. Keep her away from that old crowd by introducing her to new people and help her to find new ways to spend her time (hobbies, sports, etc)
2006-12-03 01:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You can only control whether you hang out with her. She has to control her own life.
2006-12-03 02:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋