Once upon a time a friend of mine ask me out, but he showed up to the date with two of his friends. After that "date" he always wanted to make future plans, but one hour after the date he would called it off and sometimes he wouldn't even reply my messages. A bit after he did the disappearing act on me (mind you he was a friend for almost a year before the date, at least I thought he was). Being a smart girl I never had any contact with him since and he never once tried to call or justify why he had been such a bastard. Today for all my surprise, after 6 months of no news, the bastard email me asking me out on a date for tomorrow, and I now know he did that because he broke up with his girlfriend.
I'm just furious thinking who does he think he is? Doesn't he feel shame?
Before this I let it pass by (the way he treated me) but after his email I want to say something and let him know what a bastard he truly is.
How and when do you think I should tell him what I think of him?
2006-12-02 17:47:35 · 21 answers · asked by Mary7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't need to tell him a thing. He knows exactly what kind of bastard he is. What he doesn't know is that you know it! Don't give him the satisfaction of any sort of response. Ignore Ignore Ignore
He apparently thinks so little of you and figures you have zero pride. Now, think so little of HIM and have some PRIDE...no response is the best slap in the face he can get.
2006-12-02 17:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem with this is that you have all of these annoyed, pissed off feelings (rightfully so btw) that have been bottled up for a long time now! If you need to say something to get it off your chest, you better make it short and sweet, otherwise you'll just sound a little crazy cause he is coming from a totally different place than you (somewhere much sleezier).
Or you can do something totally evil and tell him you will meet him somewhere for the date and not show up! hahahha
2006-12-03 01:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you should move on with your life. I think that you should reply to him and tell him what you think of him after what has happened lately. Let him know you don't want to be toy'd with. I suppose it wouldn't hurt to try to re-establish a friendship, but that might be very awkward after what has happened. I would definitely warn against a romantic relationship of any sort with this guy.
2006-12-03 01:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider a man who dumped you in the first place ? He's just trying to use you again while he is on the rebound, from his breakup with his gf. Act like he doesn't even exist, no matter how many times he Email !.
2006-12-03 01:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ignore him too. You've obviously moved on from having anything to do with him and then acknowledging him now will probably only stress you out and create a snow ball affect. Meaning that he'll probably retaliate and then make you even angrier.
You have to ask yourself is it worth it?
2006-12-03 01:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Midnight~à®?~Mysteria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't worth the effort. Put your time and energy into finding someone who wants to be with you. Chasing the ghost of this relationship will only keep the hurt coming back. Let it go!
2006-12-03 01:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not change him.
Telling him off or trying to teach him a lesson is a waste of time.
Just ignore him and let it go. I know it must make your blood boil, but just let it go. I
In a few months you will have forgotten all about it.
2006-12-05 20:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by mouseden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn down the date, nicely! Why let him know it bothered you.?He already knows he's a bastard.
2006-12-03 01:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by ga_light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rise above the situation is the best advice I can give to you. Love is more powerful than hate, and there is far too much hate in this world.
Take care of yourself and invest energy in your self.
2006-12-03 01:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right away and you should tell him " at 1st i wasnt going to e-mail you back because i thought SURELY after the way you treated me this asking me out MUST be a JOKE!" that way he knows youre ticked off and you one-up him without stooping to his level. i hope this helped.
2006-12-03 01:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋