Please help me, My girlfriend broke up with me, we are both 17 years old, I want her back she was the one?

Question

we were together for 1 yr and 3 mo's but our past month had a lot of problems because she said she was changing and that our love was different, she also lost all of her sexual drive since the start of that month of problems... anyways we got through all the hard stuff like we always have and then we had a hard time again and she said we needed a "break" but 3 hours later she called me crying and saying that she was sorry and that she loves me. Then that weekend we went and had a lot of fun and started fresh and it seemed like everything was starting back good and we both had a good time, a week later she broke up with me saying that she liked someone else, that i did nothing wrong, and she still loves me, she said she still wants to be friends... i can now see from myspace that this guy she goes to school with broke up with his girlfriend of over a year at the same time my girlfriend broke up with me and they are now hanging out, we aren't talking,dont say move on i want her back help

Answer 1

Man, oh, man. I feel your pain. You see, when you act needy-clingy-obsessivy towards a girl, she gets tired of it. She wants some space around her, to have fun etc. What you're asking here is not done in 1 minute, it's done in about half a year of brainwashing about how the relationships are built. Whatever you do now, you can't make her come back, you can only push her farther away. The only advice I can give you now is don't call her, don't come near her. No, I'm not saying move on. While you're keeping away from her, go online and check out some dating sites, especially on what women are looking for in a man. 2 main things to keep a woman attracted: strength and humor. All other virtues, like honesty, trustworthiness etc. are nice but they work for you best when you're already in a long-term relationship. Anyway, I'm not going to write all the stuff here. Go to doubleyourdating.com, sign up for the letter, and learn how to become a guy a girl needs. No fakes, no tricks, no pickups, just expressing yourself completely honestly. You'll like it, she'll love it and won't want anybody else if you do it correctly. Just a warning: you're going to need a LOT of patience to change a lot of things you were socialized into.

Answer 2

There are a few good answers here. One day you will agree with one of us the next, another. But too truly answer you question....It is a simple answer but it will be hard to do. She must feel a loss if she is ever going to miss you. This means you have to make no attempt to contact her. Don't use the "lets be friends" as an excuse to contact her or allow her to contact you. I think it is clear to everyone she has not treated you like a friend. Right? She shouldn't know you are still alive! If she asks your friends all they know its business as usual. This has to go on for at least 3 months so mark you calendar Sir and start your engine; you are on a new course. Here is the best thing that can happen; she realizes that if she wants to have a real relationship with you she will have to earn it. The worst that can happen is that after 3 months you come to the wonderfully freeing conclusion that you are the one who doesn't need her. I know it doesn't feel like it but YOU hold all the cards. Get a support group three or four friends, who agree to be as available as possible to you during these three months, agree that you will contact any or all of them whenever you feel the need to contact her. They have one job, to not let you contact her. Second fill your dance card, with work school, friends anything.
Look at it like this, when everyone is playing fair is to ok to share the field equally; when another person breaks the rules you have to take back your field, don't allow them a single yard. Hold your ground. Calmly be where you are at and allow yourself to experience this with observation, not anger, or sadness. Get a note book and keep a diary during these three months.
I am telling you can't go wrong with this strategy, either way you will come out the other side strong and healthy, The guy any girl would be attracted to.
Chin up, Sholders back, Your in charge!

Good Luck, We are all with you.

Answer 3

This is a very hard way to learn a difficult lesson in life. You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. You are both still so very young. She wants to try out other people, and that is very hurtfull to think about. I've been there. It seems like the world's going to end and you don't want to go on. I know, man, I've been there. You can't let go, so I'm not going to tell you to let go. If you really want her back, here's the trick: Don't chase after her, let her do what she wants to do, and as hard as it is, you HAVE to pretend that you don't care. Tell her you still want to be friends, but don't ever be there when she calls for you or needs you. Stay busy, even start dating, even if you don't want to. Once she's been a couple of jerks she'll miss the comfort and trust there was between the two of you and she'll come crying back. Still don't take her back, say you just want to be friends and that you're seeing someone else. You'll get the sex whenever you want it, and she'll pay the price for betraying your love. But don't do it too long, or else you'll really lose her by becoming one of the same jerks she left you for. Good luck!

Answer 4

First, I understand what you mean. You're upset and it's OK to be upset. Human beings can't control other human beings, because people will do what they want to do. A lot of times people make decisions and change their minds in relationships for a number of reasons. Just keep being a good person and think good things. I promise you that a "girlfriend" will be in your life. Your "ex" might come back. It's important that you are taking care of your (chores, work and other stuff) every day. Finally, magically things with love fall into place when people are acting and thinking good. I promise you, because it works every time.

Answer 5

okay i understand u love this girl but she says she loves u but if she loved u y would she be with another? sounds to me like she is playing games with you. I think u should talk to one of Ur female friends and ask her to pretend to be Ur girlfriend to make the old girlfriend mad, then she will get jealous and come running back to u bc she could be doing this just to make you mad. If that dose not work express Ur true feelings to her, And after that doesn't work seek a hobbies to get over her, u r 17 u have Ur whole life ahead of you and there r other fish in the sea. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I know you said for us not to tell you to move on, but that`s all you can do. You don`t want to dwell on her if you`ve got no chance, do you? Don`t you want to try to find someone else? If she loved you, she wouldn`t have hurt you; well, at least not if she loved you in the way you love her. I believe that you love her, but I also believe that you`ll find someone else. If you and her were meant to be, you would get through the rough times without break ups and heart ache.

Answer 7

In an ideal world, I would say that there's a way to get her back, BUT THERE ISNT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im sorry, But she broke with you for another guy, and shes just too confusing. It'll hurt now, but the pain will go away soon, just give it some time, talk to your friends, they'll help you and support you. Hopefully this will help.

Answer 8

Why would you want her back she played you like a rap song. If you get her back then she will aways treat you this way. You deserve someone who wants you but your just 17 your to young to understand that concept. But if you want her back just be patient she knows your gullible and when she has problems with the new she will come back to you if only for a little while. I guess you'll just have to get in where you fit in

Answer 9

What you want is not always what is best. You have to face it head on and move on. Let her experience this new person and you do the same. If Love is really there she will come back to you. You can't force someone to love you. I wish you luck.

Answer 10

I don't want to seem harsh or anything but you are young.

This is going to happen over and over again.

It is very rare for a person to stay with their teenage gf/bf's.

People change and really don't know what they want in life until about their mid to late 20's.