Unlike her attitude towards my younger brother, she'll always praise him and she'll spend her time and money for him. This has been going on for ages. I tried very hard to pretend as if nothing happened. But now I'm tired of it. What shall I do?
2006-12-02 17:01:08 · 11 answers · asked by taty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe your mum thought it was not necessary to praise you since you seemed alright in the past from not needing to be praised.
I'm sure she loves you both the same. Parents tend to care more about the younger one, but that's generally because the younger one needs the care. She probably thinks you're more mature and doing fine, so hence she focuses a little bit more on your younger brother.
Communication is the key. Let your mum know how you feel :)
2006-12-02 17:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the World of Teens with little sisters or brothers. I think this has happened to the best of us. We dont feel that our parents appreciate anything that we do no matter how hard we try to prove ourselves. But that isnt neccessarily the case. Sometimes parents believe that the older child is stronger and that they can take having less attention and praise on them and still keep their grade up and continue to be the model child and thinks that it wont affect them one little bit, when it really does. That not true everyone needs a little affection and praise for doing a good job, even your parents want people to tell them that they are doing a good job every once in a while. It just really makes them feel good. The best thing that you can do is to talk to them and let them know what is going on and how you feel about the situation but that dont mean that it will change anything but it is worth a try.
2006-12-03 01:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her about it. My mom doesnt praise me much either or seem as interested as my father when it comes to my achievements but I know shes proud. Some people have different ways of showing it. As for your brother, my friends mom treats her differently than she treats her brother too. I dont know what sex you are but in her situation I think it is because moms are close to their sons. Im close to mine also :) I know, not an exucse for her to treat my friend differently but I was thinking maybe thats why? Be more strict on the girls? lol also, maybe your mother doesnt praise you much because she expects you to always succeed. And maybe she doesnt expect much out of your brother so when he does do good things, he surprises her and therefore, gets praised because of that. I think you should tell her how you feel and keep what I said in mind. The reason why might surprise you! Good luck
2006-12-03 01:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that your Mom knows that you are mentally strong, and
she thinks that your little brother needs the support. It's OK. This happens a lot to a lot of people. So........you can ask your Mom how you're doing. She probable does not know that she has been acting this way. Have a little chat with her. Talking is the best way.
2006-12-03 01:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not be diheartened.Mothers r actually not what they seems 2 b.u must try 2 find d real love im ur mom.Sometimes social customs etc. also influences.Try 2 show mom that u really love her.Then if she remains d same then in one fine day u talk 2 her about all this.Good luck i am with u
2006-12-03 01:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth i too have had this same problem i am a middle child and my parents always did more and payed more attention to my older sister and younger brother but this doesnt mean that they dont love you and really there is nothing you can do about this but maybe talk to you mom about how you feel dont worry your not the only one
2006-12-03 01:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by April A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What I think you should really do is talk to her. You should tell her how you feel about the way she treats you. Tell her that it's brothering you that she doesn't pay any intention to you. Tell her why does she care more about your brothers than you, why she pays more intention to them than you. You should tell her every single thing you feel. Don't be scared to tell her if she doesn't listen or even care than don't waste your time because that means she is not a very good mother at all.Hope I helped.
2006-12-03 01:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take pride in your achievements and know that someday Mom is going to realize that she raised TWO wonderful sons.
2006-12-03 01:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welcome to my world ... the sun shines from my brothers butt no matter what he does and i'm the disappointment ... tho i own a house, am married & have a children ... my brothers the loser ... so go figure.
what to do??? what i did was accepted her short comings and realized long ago she was never meant to be a mother. it hurts a lot sometimes but at least i know what to expect now.
2006-12-03 01:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
taty? this is your mom. you little brat. Are you on here complaining about me again? You're completely worthless. why cant you be like your little brother? he's perfect. There'll be no Christmas for you this year for this! I'm only going to buy for my little schnoookumps.
2006-12-03 01:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋