After 8 months, I saw my ex boyfriend at the university campus that we both attend. He seemed REALLY happy to see me, he was smiling and looking deeply into my eyes, he kept asking me all these questions. I kinda seemed annoyed. At the end of the conversation, he said "give me a shoutout and we can do something", & I just looked at him, and he said "yeah we can see a movie together or anything you want", I just said bye and walked away. He was the one who dumped me 8 months ago. He hasn't tried to contact me since then and no, even though the ball is in my court I would never ask him, he dumped me!
Since he hasn’t asked me for this movie does this mean that all his happiness & “let’s see a movie” was fake?
I feel sad cuz I didn't want him to say that just cuz he feels guilty or pitied me:(
It's hard for me to let go cuz he was my first boyfriend and first kiss and I'm 20.
We never had sex cuz I'm saving it for marriage. What are the pros and cons if I ask him to "hang out"?
2006-12-02 16:58:10 · 13 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The cons will be that it will take you another 8 months to get over him .. as for his asking you out again ... just take it as a "friend" gesture and leave it at that, be flattered he asked but don't go down that road again!!
Don't read more into this than what's there ... he probably didn't pity you or feel guilty ... lets face it guys say things to be nice but don't always mean them.
2006-12-02 17:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get scarred when they are getting to close to someone and break up with them. And just because he sounded happy to see you doesn't mean he was only doing it to pity you. People break up with others for the silliest reasons and you have to remember that. If you are interested in just being friends then give him a call. This time the ball is in your court and if he pushes a relationship you can slow it down to your speed. If he really wasn't interested then no harm. Oh, and college boys are sometimes idiot's, they will even admit it.
2006-12-03 01:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Beckaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not seem to be a good prospect. Find some one whose communications and actions are consistent. He did "dump" you and I doubt that you are so needy that you are willing to waste more of your time with him! Now is the time while you are in university that you will have the most desirable dating possibilities. Be wise and cultivate friendships with people who you can respect.
2006-12-03 01:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you...that means he's not that into you. Don't treat yourself like a doormat....forget him...if he likes you enough he will pursue again. Plus, I commend you on saving yourself for marriage, that's awesome...very few ppl do it these days. I know right now it seems to you like he's a great guy cause he was your first and that's all you know...trust me, it always seems that way but rarely is.
2006-12-03 01:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like his comment was forced and he doesnt really mean it otherwise he would have called you by now, im sorry to say.
keep saving that special thing for marriage because trust me, you dont wanna waste it on some loser who dumps your *ss later on down the road. at least if your married and he leaves you, you can take him for half of what he's worth.
keep on dreaming the dreams and doing the d@mn thing. chin up, plenty of guys come and go
2006-12-03 01:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Justina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the cons are that you could get hurt again. the pros are that he might of changed. i would give it another go if you feel strongly for him but dont open up your heart to him until he proves to you that you mean something to him. when its your first boyfriend you are always going to have strong feelings for them, they just hold a special place inside you and nobody can replace that.
2006-12-03 01:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just miss you. This doesn't mean he wants to get back together. If you can handle just being friends, give him a call. If the thought of him still hurts, leave it alone.
2006-12-03 01:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you 8 months ago - that's all you really need to know. Move on.
2006-12-03 01:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be fair he gets to hang out with you, only if he can admit that he hurt you. if he can admit to that (doesn't have to apologize cause things were situational back then) then he gets to see you.
before he continues to ask you, bring it up so that he knows early that yes, he'll have to deal with the past. you do sound hurt by it. but life's not fair so you have to admit no grudges too.
now how's that for asking for understanding!?
2006-12-03 01:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked this exact same question a while back, didn't you? Yes I remember..you didn't get the answer you were looking for then??
2006-12-03 01:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by rufnready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋