This girl is one of my best friends. I have asked her out before the first time she said no not right now i dont know the second time she said i might ( I asked her later if she actually thought about it or if she just didn't want to hurt my feelings and she said she had thought about it) She called me once and we were talking and I told her I loved her. a couple days later she broke up with her boyfriend and since then I have been thinking about asking her out again. Is there anything I could do to see if she wants me to and should I ask her out. Please help me in anyway you can e-mail me whatever you can do to help.
2006-12-02 16:53:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These kinds of situations can really get to you huh?? I might ask you first if you really DO love this girl. I know it would be such a lovely thought to think that, but you really should seriously consider if you just like her very very strongly, to a way that you might like or want to love her, or maybe you are just really interested in pursuing a relationship with her. Sometimes when we cant have something we want, it leads us to want it even worse, maybe even think we love it!
Ok, so next! =) If this girl was not interested in you before, and I really hate to say this and face the chance of possibly dropping your hopes, but there might be the misfortune that she still might not be, or maybe not as much as she'd like to be, or just is not. If you really care for this girl, show her you can be a beautiful friend to her. Gain her trust, respect, being a friend sometimes requires you to step out of your comfort zone. This girl, if she really is a big keeper, might be worth fighting for! Which leades me to another thing. Be truthful and ask yourself questions, like, is she TRULY worth my time, or am I just enfatuated with her. Maybe she just has fancy clothes and nice looks, and an OKAY personality, but not one that particularly intrigues me. Or a not very nice personality and great looks. Looks are not even worth that misery! Im sure you knwo that! =D
If all came out possitive, dont be so sudden to ask this girl out again. If she is a sweetie, she first of all is not going to want to have to carry that burden and contemplate over what she should do, and if she has already made up her mind to say no, then she might find it hard to break the harsh news to you AGAIN! (Thus giving her more stress) Which I have gotten myself into once or twice unfortunately!
If you are best friends, be serious, look her in the eyes with confidence, let her see through your eyes the excact message you want her to get, except COMPLETE weakness, and ask her, "Do you like me for something more than a best friend?"Or maybe "Do you have the same feelings I do for you?" If she puts it off let her know kindly and curteously that you feel you have the right to know, and this burden that YOU carry is certainly hard to carry, seeing as it is a very important unanswered question.
Poor you! I feel so bad! lol Just hang in there! But dont wait forever for her to finally change her mind or use you as a last resort! That will only lead to a few moments of enjoyement for you and her, and then the heartbrake/dumping from, most likely, her. Dont get your heartbroken!
God bless, and best wishes! (God makes the best matches by the way) ;) You might try for something there! It's so much more fulfilling! Im waiting for that one who knocks me off my feet! I bet you a billion you would be happier and more joyful than you've ever been!
"Many waters cannot quench love, niether can the floods drown it." Song of Solomon 8:7
God's a wonderful poet, you might try reading a little from the bible!
Best of hopes my friend! I hope you discover this information to be helpful!
2006-12-02 17:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Miss PIff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say do not ask her out again. It may be very hard to accept, but you told her you loved her so more than likely she already knows how you feel. She just got out of a relationship, give her some space for now. If she wants a relationship with you let her come to you, the ball is in her court now.
2006-12-03 00:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're hanging out see how she acts towards you. Get into conversation about having a relationship. You'll know when the time is right. Good luck!
2006-12-03 00:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask hr out if you really love her. then maybe after a few weeks later you could court her to be your girlfriend.
good luck!
P.S.
ask her out gently and slowly since she just broke up.
2006-12-03 01:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by pig_tails14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he dosent want anything to change between the two of you so just go for it and ask her what she thinks of you.
2006-12-03 00:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by AvOnDaLeGuRl4LiFe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes scared it will wreck your friendship and doesnt no if its worth wrekcing it over.
2006-12-03 00:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by barrelracer12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋