It says there will be food and drinks following the service.
2006-12-02 16:47:08 · 7 answers · asked by outd00r_enthusiast 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A bottle of wine, or a fruit basket, or a cake are always welcome. Sorry for your loss.
2006-12-02 17:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss. Of course flowers or a donation to a charity your friend was partial to is always appropriate. Since there will be food and drinks following the service, why don't you wait a few days and then bring a nice casserole or a turkey or ham with salads to the family. In the days following a death people never take care of themselves like they should and getting up and cooking is something most don't want to bother to do. Providing a meal is a very nice gesture that everyone will appreciate at this challenging time. And don't forget to take care of yourself too!
2006-12-02 16:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by jjmlls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your really close, just call and ask what can I do to help you with food, otherwise I would take either a meat and/or cheese tray or a dessert.
About after 5 days I call and tell them I am bringing food over, and I order a "family meal" from a good restaurant and take it to them...
Then a couple of months later I sent a thinking of you card... because by this time everyone has moved on while the family is still grieving and it shows them that you are thinking about them and took the time to get a card.
2006-12-02 17:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Yvette P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to "get" the family something, call the funeral home and find out if the family has set up a charitable fund in the deceased's name rather than buying flowers or a plant (many families are doing that these days...). A card with a personal note is also an act of kindness/graciousness.
2006-12-02 18:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Send flowers and a card and if she/he was a good friend then a call to the family in about a week is a nice gesture. The food and drinks are usually provided by the members of the deceased one’s church, at least in my church it is.â»
2006-12-02 17:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by # one 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flowers for the deceased is most common. But if your buying something for someone who is suffering the loss you usually offer your condolenses and call them a couple times a week just to let them know that you care. It also helps if they are now alone to have someone to talk to. Even once a week is good.
2006-12-02 16:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
flowers, or something special just the two of you shared, or a few bucks thrown into the donating box... but if your looking for something sentimental i woudl suggest the first two, or a card!! I am sorry for your loss.
2006-12-02 16:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by turttlebert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋