Who is she?

Question

I've known her for 2 years, im in college, she's sitll in HS. I've always cared for her, but never told her. Her B/F dumped her this past week and i took her to the mall today. we had an amazing time! she's WAY too beautiful for me, but she likes me, in that way... i really dont want to get involved cuz she deserves so much more. she tells me all the time that i'm too sweet not to have a g/f... but when she brings up the possiblility of her and i dating, i push it aside, and tell her that she deserves sooooo much more. What should i do? Is she the love of my life? Just a great friend? or maybe just another failed relationship waiting to happen?

she and i have each dated about 4-5 ppl per year for the last 3 years... so we're WAY scared of our relationship failing too

she's a junior in HS, ima college Frosh

Answer 1

IF SHE LIKES U RESPECT THAT MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T GO TELLING HER THAT SHE DESERVES MORE CAUSE IF U THINK THAT THAN UR PRICELESS1!! just u THINKING that ur not worth enough for her is PROOF that u are.... u care for her.. she cares for u!! ITS A PERFECT LOVE STORY!! try it out with her... k? if it doens't work out.. it doens't work out.. if it does work out then... well there u go.......... and i'm telling u... U DO DESERVE MORE... and one more thing.. there is NO age limit to love... (honestly........ i've been reading WAY too many sappy stories... well if they work for me they'll work for u)

Answer 2

Wow dude you need to take a step back for a minute. Why are you so down on yourself? If this girl likes you then obviously she sees something you don't. You are special and there is no one else in the world like you. I am sure there is something that you like about yourself. Don't push her away anymore cause one day she may just go and leave you alone. If she likes you and you like her then date her. Don't be scared that she is to good for you that is nonsense. She isn't better then you are and shame on your for thinking so. I really think you should give the dating thing a try and tell her that you are ready. I don't think you should tell her that she deserves better then you. Do the best you can to give her what you think she deserves and be the best you that you can be. Good luck.

Answer 3

Noone is too beautiful or too good for anyone. We are all created equal in one way or another. The best relationships begin with great friendship. Quit pushing the subject of being together aside and go for it. It could be the best thing that has ever happened in your life.

Answer 4

Never think that a girl is too beautiful for ya. Also, don't be afraid of the relationship failing. Also, give it some time to let it settle in for her, instead of just jumping into a relationship, that way, she'll have time to decide. Then after that, I'd suggest for ya to make a move.

Answer 5

The way I see this situation there are two problem. One is you have low self worth. Stop putting yourself down, if she tells you your "cool" then believe it, because she's telling the truth. Second problem is if both of you approach a relationship as if it's gonna fail before it even starts then it's doomed to fail. If you both give your new relationship a REAL chance and keep up the " positive waves" then......The Sky's The Limit... be happy.

Answer 6

Ya know, if I was your Mom, I say, Boy, be a man. Shoot, if she likes you like that, why are you acting this way? You aren't good enough for her? Who are you to decide what she is looking for? Get some gumption about you boy. Women want smart, sweet, and nice. If it is your looks that have you down, get a makeover. If you are in college, you should know more about women by now. She is too young for you if she is in high school. Let her get to 18 and then pursue something with her. In the meantime, stop being so hard on yourself. You evidently have something about you that is VERY attractive. You need to accept your own beauty within. Dang on it!

Answer 7

How do you know if it will fail unless you try. It sounds like you two have a feeling for each other and you should follow your heart. I think you sound like a pretty nice guy so what makes you think she deserves so much more. You may be the best thing that ever happens to her and her for you.

Answer 8

Your both so young. At least wait until she graduates from HS. I was accused of being too pretty...but I never thought I was.
Most of the time I preferred a guy with a good head on his shoulders that had more than..."just looks". He had to be respectable, original, funny, and intelligence is a huge factor.
What good is it to have an looks/ "arm hanger", and no brains?!

Answer 9

You said you are in college and she is in high school, but, you failed to mention your ages. Before becoming involved in a potentially intimate relationship, you should wait. Let her know that you do love her, but, that a true romantic relationship should wait until she comes of age. Doesn't she want to go to college? If you finish college, you will want someone who is an equal partner. Please don't ever belittle yourself to anyone! Also, only the passage of time will demonstrate if she is "the love of your life."

Answer 10

Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
I'm sure you've heard that saying? It applies perfectly here.
Seriously, are you going to go through life "scared" of a failed relationship? If so, you will ALWAYS fail. You're setting yourself up for failure with that train of thought - both of you.

Get busy living, man! Life's way too short.

Answer 11

I think that you should let her decide if she deserves you or not, and relationships don't fail just to fail, people causes them to fail. If you both put in the time and effort to make it work it can. Give it a try! Good Luck!!!!!