I had a long distance on-line love affair with a woman but when we got together finally after 6 months for some reason we didn't have the same chemistry in real life. Now I am back in Canada, she had talked to her friends and came to a conclusion that we were not compatible and she was moving on, and might email once in awhile way down the road. I am still hanging on after no communication in 3 months, but I know by a program that she is reading my emails. The hurt seems to be still there and a hope that we will get back together. The waiting is driving me nuts. I loved the woman I talked to on-line and it thought her feelings were mutual, she paid for the trip to England and France.
I had previously met her 25 years ago and we got intimate and then didn't see her until this year. I was truthful and honest on-line but in real life she didn't seem the same person. She said she was my woman to me and sent me sexy pictures, her kids had said she had been so happy on-line with me
2006-12-02 16:19:36 · 4 answers · asked by iceblue_purple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I recently had a discussion with my friends about this exact thing. The concesus was that the timeline for getting over someone is one week for for every month you were together, but that's more of a guideline than an absolute rule.
But with long distance relationships, I tend to disagree. The trouble is, long distance relationships require a special kind of discipline. Just by it's very nature, you've got your life and your relationship life, and they rarely ever synch up perfectly. When you meet up in person, you're out of your usual element...it a completely different situation.
Online, you have the advantage of being honest while at the same time carefully choosing your words so they come out just right. In person, you don't have the delete key. You can't take back your words. Add to the mix the fact that you're nervous as hell about having this person right there, and it's like you're starting from scratch.
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, man. I wish things could've been better. However, she made the decision to move on, and as much as it hurts, you gotta do the same. Take as much time as you need. Don't be in such a rush to get past the pain. Because much like a skin wound, it won't heal if you keep picking at it.
No worries, man.
2006-12-02 16:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iceblue: Move on baby! Love her for making you feel like a man and beautiful. Distance relationships seldom work. A caring couple need to have some hands on baby.
Send her one last message and express your disappointments and you need to ride your horse to fresher pastures. Do thank for the good times you both had together. She may change her tune, for now you are a challenge to her. I wish you the best partner.
2006-12-03 00:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really anybody who invovles themselves in this fantasy called internet relationship has very low self esteem.get back into the real world meet real people love them or hate them but snap out of this fantasy.
2006-12-03 00:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on urselfff
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2006-12-03 00:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Angel L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋