ummmmmmmmmmm......... guyz, help me out?

Question

I look just like my avatar and alot of people say im cute and that i have a great personality but iv'e never had a real boyfriend?!?!?!? Why??? I dont understand it, and every guy that iv'e liked has gone 4 some huge boobed, blonde, bimbo?!?!/!/? I dont understand this cycle??!?!??

except for some stalker dude but thats a whole nother story!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh im 14 and in High school

I feel like a complete and total loser!

Have you ever seen A Cinderella Story , the one with Hilary Duff and Chad Michael Murray!
Yeah im Hilary but I never got a Chad!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Im sorry...but if the guys don't like you for your personality, they're total jerks. I mean if a relationship is only based upon looks...it can't last long. Relationships built on friendships and time would usually last much longer.

Answer 2

Yeah Grandpa and Michael H are totally right......... guys in ur age group just go for the bleach-blonde big **** small waiste type of chicks bcuz these guys themselves are totally immature and adolescent and are just after sex and bragging to thier mates about it.

Trust me, thats all they are after at this age and they are not worth going after. Such guys will run after the next bimbo who walks by. And these bimbos are dumb, totally.

If u look like ur avatar then u must be totally beautiful and there is nothing wrong with ur looks. In fact u look intelligent and I'm sure u are, which means u are worth tonnes more than these bimbos! Just strut ur stuff and when u see a guy u like, casually go up to him and talk, see if he's decent and worth your time. Otherwise smile proud and move on!

Answer 3

Well, sounds like you're maybe attracted to guys with big egos. They act like a superstar and you feel like they maybe have so much energy and purpose that they are just amazing. But the truth is, most guys like that are very shallow, think mostly about themselves and naturally will go for someone who looks the hottest (or the sluttiest, which are often the same thing to guys).

So obviously, to answer how you attract guys like that, well, you'd have to turn into one of those bimbos too. But it sounds like you're better than that and won't change your whole personality for some jerk. So that makes me think that you're looking in the wrong places.

Try to join some afterschool programs (if you're in school), or charitable organizations you care about, or a local church with similar beliefs (if applicable). As you hang out with people with similar interests, you'll make a bunch new friends, and some of those friends might turn into a boyfriend, or introduce you to one. And because they'll have so much in common with you, it won't be just a silly crush, where somebody impresses you by their big talk but has nothing to show for it inside. Instead, you'll have someone you have a real connection with.

Also, just to make it easier on yourself and your potential boyfriend, don't automatically approach every guy as a possible boyfriend material, instead, hang out with him, like you would a friend, get to know him, and then if the sparks fly, that's great, and if not, you'll have one more friend which isn't bad either.

Focus on the character of the person, get to know them, and the rest will be easy. And please don't think that you have to have a boyfriend to be "normal". Maybe you're unique enough that every jock out there isn't quite up to your standards, and that's not a bad thing either.

Answer 4

Ignore that cycle. Just be sure that your day will come. Just keep on the lookout for decent guys that DONT look for some huge boobed, blonde, bimbo. I cant say that that's happened to me, cause all i guys i know are really nice and stuff, and there arent many huge boobed girls in my school. So yeah. Stay confident. Im sure that that perfect guy will come around some day. Sometimes, they're just the shy ones.

Answer 5

Well, although I've dated I've never had a REAL girlfriend and I'm 46 so maybe I'm the wrong person to ask for sympathy! But sounds like you're analyzing and worrying too much, a lot of guys are probably too intimidated by your beauty to ask you out, and if you're "losing" the guys who go for the dumb ones who "put out more" you're not missing anything.

Join a club/hobby/organization so that you will meet the guys who do the things YOU like to do.For some reason, it's easier to find dates when you AREN'T looking. If you meet someone you like YOU ask THEM out if you want, this is the 00's.

Answer 6

I dont know. I have problems of my own. I know I don't like the big boobed bimbos especially for one reason. The are all stuck up or most of them anyway. I myself have had one girlfriend and i am 17. my advice wether it helps or not would be to find one guy and hope he likes you. The girl I love doesn't love me back at least I think and thats the worst. I am sorry that this probably wont help much.

Answer 7

I don't know the age group your dealing with,but young men are often attracted to a girls body before e they know her mind.
It may seem unfair to you ,but you may have to give it some time before you find a guy who wants to be with the type of girl you are,The good part is that when it happens you will feel so much better for having stayed the woman you are rather than changing to please some boy who doesn't know what he wants in the first place.
Be happy you are you ...and Good Luck!

Answer 8

Teensy: those fellows are thinking with their testicles. Don't fault those bimbos, for they are thinking with their physical deformities. You continue to be the sweet beautiful lady. Mr. right will come along when you are matured and riding with a herd of Angels just for you!

Grandpa

Answer 9

Lemme guess, your in your teens... Lots of guys your age tend to go for bleach blonde ditzes... You should be the initiator when trying to find a boyfriend! Find a guy who you like, and go for it...

Answer 10

I've seen this trouble over and over with girls. I always ask them if their tongues automatically hang out when around boys or boys they want?

That usually solves the problem.