My stepsister is pregnant... yeah, the baby's MINE. Honestly, we don't know how to tell the rents. What would you do in this particular situation? It's crazy, I know, but we aren't really even related. Obviously not in blood, and we were interested in eachother quite a while before our parents met and got hitched. How should we tell them, what should we DO?
2006-12-02 16:12:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at least you are accepting the fact that your stepsister is pregnant by you. You really must tell both parents as they have a right to know. Dont feel bad about the situation as as you have pointed out, there is no blood connection between the two of you. Be mature about everything with your parents and I am sure between the four of you, everything will be ok.
2006-12-02 16:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by LEEANE G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well awkward is the word here...but be mature and think it through:
1. Are you wanting to stay together?
2.How old are you both? If you are under 20...you need to think about things differently. Step sister or not...you are in a bad situation.
3. Given you aren't relatives really, then maybe you should look at it like an unplanned pregnancy.
4. Make 3 decisions separately and plan accordingly.
Here are the three decisions.
1. Do you want to marry and raise a child together?
2. Do you want to be pregnant?
3. Do you want your family to be traumatized?
Based on these things make the best decision you can. If you don't plan on being together for life, decide what to do with the pregnancy. She doesn't have to tell if she is giving it up. If you two want to declare your love...do it...but recognize that the family is going to have more trouble than you want. It is possible that it will tear them apart.
Sorry about that. But the truth can be very painful. If you really do want to be together. Then move as maturely as possible. Tell them about the situation and then proceed like you loved another woman.
If you are old enough, meaning over 21...then just do what is best for you. Parents do understand love. But if you have been step siblings for years...expect a tremendous upset in the family. Expect it and don't be surprized if the family is unable to accept it. The decision is for the two of you really.
2006-12-02 16:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy! I do not want 2 be u right now. Your step sis is just like ur sis. I mean, not by blood but her mother or father is doing ur mother or father. brrr! I don't even know if that's incest.
Ok sorry, enuf sarcasm. My best advice is for the 2 of u 2 break the news 2 the rents 2geda, and tell them how u feel. They'll be shocked but the deed has been done. All u guyz can do now is find a solution together. Trust me, it'll be a lot easier if they know.
If she's uderage she can't get an abortion without their consent; but if she's of age and she doesn't want the baby, she can get rid of it easily and no one has 2 know. Of course you're providing the cash so u might wanna get and keep that job.
Good luck with that, man.
2006-12-02 16:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by damselville 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Obviously they will find out she is preganant sooner ot later, so you may as well tell them the baby belongs to you as soon as possible. Just get it out, and however they react, look at it this way: there is nothing they can do about, the deed is done. Explain to them that you guys liked each other before this happened, and that you care about each other. If they have decency, they may be upset at first but they will come to accept it in the end. What choice do they really have?
2006-12-02 16:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Girl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yikes! That is quite a pickle you two have gotten into now isn't it?! I always say the truthful approach works in whatever way its met to work. Make sure you tell them that you were interested in each other before they got married. This might soften the blow. Good luck sweety and hey............condoms are a great way to avoid any more accidents.
2006-12-02 16:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by akafinewine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There really isn't anything wrong. You are not related by blood and you were interested in each other before your parents were married. I think you need to tell your parents- if they really love and care for you then they will understand. Explain that you were interested in each other before they were married and you really love each other. You need to tell them.
2006-12-02 16:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Klingon Atheist 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Well. Ok, so you aren't blood related at least, but this is going to be a huge issue for both of your parents! I see no other way than to just spill it to them- its not like you can hide it forever.
2006-12-02 16:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by jaye580 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The two of you need to runaway and elope, live in a trailer park in some god forsaken county while getting drunk on PBR and Jack.
Or just fess up to your mistake and take your lumps. You obviously didn't care about the repercussions of your actions before, so why worry now. Be a man and take responsibility.
2006-12-02 16:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by nemostorm512 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should tell your parents so they can help you out with this. The girl is going to need to get some care from a doctor so just come clean with it and tell the parents they will be able to help you out.
2006-12-02 16:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
OK you have a kid on the way no matter the situation. You need to tell your folks and perpare for the future. It's kinda sick but ok. You either marry her or find another. Its yr kid so you gotta help her out. You decide to stay or leave. Good luck.
2006-12-02 16:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋