Today we found some tumors on my dog that we have had for 11 years. My family is really hurting because we know with his age and the history of the medical problems my dog has had he most likely will have to be put to sleep. One of my best friends seen my brother at the local store and he asked my brother what is wrong cause I wasn't at the game night my group of friends and I normally have every weekend on Saturday. My brother told him that i was at home really upset and spending some time with my dog before the dreadful day comes my best friend looked at him and told my brother "I take of the dog for you and put him out of his missery with my 22" I am pissed that he took and said that I have not talked to him at all about it but my mother has said that he is not welcomed at our home any more because of that statement. How do you think i should handle this problem with him. And do u think i have all the right to be pissed at him.
2006-12-02 16:05:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
I would be totally pissed off as well. The dog is not just a pet, he is part of your family and I think it is very insensitive for someone who calls himself your friend to make such a statement. I had one of my pets put down that way and it took 2 shots to do it. Going to the vet you can guarentee that your pet will be comfortable and relaxed as he falls asleep.
2006-12-02 16:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by miss_vixen_1985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you had to deal with a remark like that.
Sadly, not all people consider dogs (or any pet for that matter) important family members, and don't understand how painful losing a dog is to those of us who love them deeply.
I do think you have every right to be upset at him. That was a very insensitive, nasty thing to say. If he ever comes around or calls and asks why everyone is mad, tell him that the statement was extremely hurtful, rude, distasteful and un-called for.
Enjoy the time you have left with your dog. Make his last days with you enjoyable, happy memories. Spoil him with treats and belly rubs, and be there for him when he needs you the most.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and hope that you still have quite a bit of time to make some great memories with your canine pal...
Hugs
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2006-12-02 16:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by libertydogtraining 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just learned that he is not really a friend..that is why REAL friends are so special.. and your mom is right.
However, unless you have had the tumors checked by a vet, and he recommended putting your companion down, there is very good hope that he can be helped by surgery.. If 'you' found the tumors, they are likely external, and can be removed..I just had a tumor removed from an 11 year old, and she is doing great..I look forward to many more years with her..the anesthesias of today are so much safer for our oldsters than they were just a few years ago..
Oh, and the cost was $210....
2006-12-02 16:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Chetco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to be mad at him. Pull him aside, and tell him how much that statement hurt you, and your mom. Don't make a scene, maybe he didn't realize how much that would hurt. Sometimes you say things at the spur of the moment, and didn't realize what you said, until it is to late. Give him a chance to explain. I am sorry about your dog, we had to put our beloved friend to sleep about a month ago. She was 14 years old, and it was just old age. I don't want to get your hopes up, but our dog had lumps on her also, maybe 3 or 4 on the side of her body. We noticed this about 4 years ago, so took her to the vet, and he said they were "fatty lumps" called Lipomas, and don't worry about them, unless it restricts her movements. Luckily, they never did bother her, I hope it is only something small like that, that's wrong with your dog.. Good Luck..
2006-12-02 16:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, I would agree with you. But most people just do NOT understand the love that Pet People have for the animal members of their families. I just lost two cats that I've had for almost 15 years and I loved them so much, however a lot of people would have thought no more of killing them than anything else. In fact, alot would have swerved to hit them just to be smart *sses. So, you see, while your friend is a friend, he just doesn't understand how people LOVE animals.
THIS IS NOT HIS FAULT - THIS IS HIS LOSS!
Think about it, aren't you much, much better off since your dog was in your life? He was your friend and never questioned you, he trusted you and loved you. Your other friends like you and love you but for other reasons, and they do question you. So, in some ways your dog was a better friend. HOWEVER, lets get real, in this world we require more than animal friends for companionship and that is where your friend with the attitude comes in. He spoke 'without knowing the hurt you were going through.' To tell him would probably embarrass him and cause him to feel hurt, possibly causing him to either 1) lash out and make another smart-*ss remark or 2) say he was truly sorry for his remark and that if he had known how you felt, he would never had said it.
So, please, until your friend KNOWS how he hurt you and your family, do not pass judgement on him. Not everyone has been lucky enough to have been loved unquestioning like you have.
2006-12-02 16:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know the answer already. What a pathetic jerk. Of course it's easy for him to make fun of your situation, because he doesn't have the grapes to be sympathetic enough to understand the feelings of grief and love you and your family has for your dog. I am so sorry for your puppy's tumors, but the better news is you saw your best friend's true colors. You know what comes next; is this a joke you can overlook? Or do you need to cut ties with the unsympathetic jerk?
2006-12-02 17:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every right to be mad at him in the world.
Should it ever come up in conversation with him, tell him youll remember his kindness. When his mother is in the hospital dying, you will be more than glad to get a shotgun and put her out of her misery. See how he likes it when a member of his family is threatened like that.
I hope a nurse pulls the plug on him when he is old and dying in a nursing home one day. On second thought I take that back. I hope they make him linger and suffer. Then he will know what its like to not have to be able to make the decision for himself and how hard it is on the family!
2006-12-02 17:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a friend. Some people are very ignorant when it comes to other peoples feelings. Let time pass and see if he'll apologize for being so cruel. Your mom sounds like she is very upset about the health of the family pet.
2006-12-02 16:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by Chillin-it 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah!! You should be mad, thats not right!!! My friends dog died a couple months ago and she was very upset about it. She wanted her dog to live as long as possible. If I were you, i would be EXTREMELY mad at your FRIEND.
2006-12-02 16:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by munkees92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry. How dare they even say that. I think you should confront him and tell him how much that comment hurt you and your family. Also, tell him that if he wants to be welcome in your home again than he needs to apologize to you and your family.
2006-12-02 16:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋