I'm 15 in 10th grade. I'm not shy or quiet and I have a little clique, but I have friends from other groups too like preppy, gothic, emo, nerds, and so on. I'm average sized, and about 5'6". I try to talk to guys, but I only have one real guy friend. I'm not looking for anyone to date right now, but why aren't guys wanting to be my friend?
2006-12-02 16:00:14 · 6 answers · asked by amkramer642 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because most guys are not looking to be friends with a girl. They want a girlfriend. If they want friends with common interests, they are easier to find in other guys. So unless a guy finds you attrctive, he won't make any effort to be your friend (and in that case, he might say he wants to be friends, but that's not what he wants). So the only guy friends you are likely to encounter are those that you don't have chemistry with and happen to hang out a lot with because of school, common friends, etc. Even if they are not interested in you as a girlfriend material, once they get to know you, they'll like you and can really become good friends with you. But no guy will actively seek out a girl-friend. I know it sounds stupid and immature, but that's the truth. That's how we think.
2006-12-02 16:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I used to have the exact same problem. I had all girl-friends and none of the guys would talk to me. Sometimes guys don't want to make the first move because they don't want you to think that they're on to you. So in class when you're sitting next to a guy, lets say youre in math class and the teacher's writing on the board. Ask the guy "can you see what that says?" or "what's the homework again?" small talk. Then ease your way into smiling at him (not in a i wanna go out with you way but a i'm friendly way) then make jokes, and soon it will seem natural. You can also join clubs with guys who don't know you at all. There you can start new with guys who don't know that other guys don't really hang out with you.
2006-12-02 16:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by malibucat1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that many guys at fifteen don't yet realize the benefits of female friends. Right now they are too busy discovering that girls are fun to date. Don't stress out. As you get older and boys mature, they'll start to see you as a person. And the ones that don't aren't worth knowing. Trust me, I've been there.
2006-12-02 16:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by ladyj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be anything, really. But that one real guy friend you have could like you too. If he's single and you want a bf, ask him out first! Trust me, there are plenty of guys facing the same situation you are. They wonder "why don't I have any female friends?" You just have to keep making conversation until you find one who wants to talk to you. Good luck!
2006-12-02 16:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just dont know what to talk about with them. Ask family members or your guy friend what guys like and try to talk about that with them. Or just BE YOURSELF! honestly, i have a million guy friends and im the quietest person in the world. But, im just myself around everyone.
2006-12-02 16:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by viva!theadicts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying too hard, just let them come to you. Also, guys are awkward at that age. They are trying to find themselves and trying to fit in. Don't worry, they will eventually start noticing you when you least expect it. Just keep being nice, keep smiling and don't be too overly aggressive.
2006-12-02 16:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatebabycakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋