ok me and my girl of four years ended our relationship. It was a wierd mouth of her breakin up with me in oct, then geting back with me in mid nov to breaking up with me agian on thanksgiven. After a week of silience i called her and we met up and i asked her why she came back in mid nov she tells me she was honest with wanting to be with me. but when she got back from her friends schools she did not feel the same. Well ok i get it is over and i still am madly in love with her. She told me she misses and cares about me but no longer in that way. And she said we should still stay friends but need to not talk and see each other for a while. i guess to help me get these feeling out before moving to that i dunno. All i know is i stll love her and want her. will i ever be able to move on? and if i do can i ever be her friend after spending all those years something more. I honestly truely love her. I am depressed about the whole thing. I wanted to marry her. It just sounds impossible 4 me
2006-12-02 15:40:59 · 11 answers · asked by detox_denny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A part of you will always love her. How can you not after spending so much time with her! You need to keep your distance from her for a while and then eventually i think u will be happy just being friends with her and will be able to move on. It will take time, but you will get there!
2006-12-02 15:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be able to move on. The best thing you can do right now is to find something to take your mind off of it even if you can't completely stop thinking about it just try to. Trust me it will help. Also, talk to someone. If you have a really close friend that's a girl, they are the best , and it will help soothe things having a friend to spend time with, and when I say time, I mean like if you need them in the middle of the night they're there. You might even consider talking to your mom about it. This is a very hard thing to go through, but trust me I have been there, and you will get through this! Have you considered talking to God?
2006-12-02 23:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple.
It's usually not in anyone's interest to stay "friends" after you've dated especially if you've slept together.
I know it's hard, but imagine how hard it will be for your new girl when you get one if your ex is always around?
TRUST ME
My husband is friends with all but one of his ex's. One in particular that he had a baby with, and neither of them can understand how it hurts that they talk every day and she hangs out when the "boys" come over. I consider it disrespectful, and I think that if you are seriously wanting to move on with your life, and ever want to get serious, you need to know that your future girl won't probably like it too much.
It will also make it harder for you to put your past relationship in the correct place - - - in the past - fond memories, but not together anymore. Most people need a clean break in order to mentally move on.
Good luck!
2006-12-02 23:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by kswildangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in four years of romantic relationship. Right now when she has just broken up with you you are thinking that the world is over.....you must be feeling desperate to get her back...or...cheated by her...you may also be bitter....if u r not dont worry it will come...this is all very normal at the end of a relationship. The feeling that it is impossible to get over her is also very normal. You were in love with her it seems but it is just too sad that she wasn't in love with you (at least thats wat i think).Getting over this gal will take time but let me tell u......boy.....u will get over her. Just give it time and be grateful dat she had the good sense to end it when she realised dat bshe did not feel as strongly for u as u did for her. She has done u a huge favour in fact for what good is it having someone who does not love u as much as u do her in your life. Do not worry....theres a big world out there and one day you will find someone who gives back to u as much as you give to her. You will move on.
2006-12-03 00:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Duski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some balls and join the Marine Corps stop woring about suzy rotten croch. Shes just like an evil witch who has no sense of loyalty. Most likely she was cheating on you but didnt want to tell you. Woman do that kind of thing and they ripe your heart out.
2006-12-02 23:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound like you were friends to begin with, and if a guy and a lady were never really friends in the beginning, there isnt even the possibility of your relationship backtracking to that stage. besides, four years is a hard thing to forget.
2006-12-02 23:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by give it to me baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely not.
2006-12-02 23:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably out of luck. Sorry.
2006-12-02 23:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she does not know what she really wants,
you are probably better off finding someone who knows what they want.
2006-12-02 23:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, not possible.
2006-12-02 23:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋