live in a good nieghborhood? We are buying a house and my daughter who is 10 has already bragged to her friends she is moving into a "mansion", her friends live in low income homes, not so nice to brag to people like that.
What do I say to her???
2006-12-02 15:21:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We are buying it with cash, Im not worried about losing my house.
2006-12-02 15:25:45 · update #1
It's all in what you can afford and live comfortably in. You want your kids in a good school and a happy home, the type of home or the size of it shouldn't matter - it's how to raise them.
If you live in the northeast, 800k sounds like a larger home in a suburb or near either Boston or NY. I wouldn't NOT buy the home cause my daughter bragged, not would I buy it because she bragged. Kids shouldn't have a say in adult finances. You and your husband should figure out if the home has everything you need and want, and will you still have enough svaings for stuff like your daughters college and everything. If so, go for it. As for her bragging - you need to explain to her that it's not nice to brag and she should treat people how she wants to be treated. If she wants people being rude to her, then brag away, but she'll end up friendless, so she needs to be careful. She should be happy that she's fortyunate enough to be well off, and maybe you and she can do some good for some less fortunate people at a shelter or something so she sees the other side of the coin.
2006-12-02 15:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rae T 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion is find a nice quiet town in the country -buy some acreage and build a house thats just sizable for you, husband and the kids.. not costing $800,000. You could have a really great house for $90,000 to $100,000 and buy up a chunk of land for your family's future for around $400,000.
That way you can leave your children something that could benefit them in the long haul and you and the Mister while you're still alive and well.
That way your children wont get so big an ego and learn the values of rural and ethics life. Now days you don't have to be a hay seed to live rural, and quite a few high $$ people are doing it.
2006-12-02 23:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
I have never heard of a home costing $800,000. Except on TV, of course.
Here we would consider a $200,000 house to be a mansion. And you could probably have one built for about that amount with as many bedrooms as you want. In the best neighborhood you've ever seen.
Jeez, consider moving to Louisiana. You could save yourselves some money.
But seriously, explain to your daughter that it's very rude to imply that you have more money than other people. If she doesn't get it she'll lose her friends. Nobody likes being insulted. If that happens, well, it's a lesson learned the hard way.
2006-12-02 23:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. I don't know why people need such big houses nowadays. I think a smaller less expensive house would be better - save the extra money for more important things - ie college eduction, savings, etc.
And look what it's doing already to your daughter! She's getting the impressoin that material things makes people special. Is that the message you're trying to send? For some reason, I think it is.
2006-12-03 08:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be frank with her and let her know that it's impolite to brag about big home and money. Honestly, where I live there's a track of homes going in behind me, that are priced from the mid-800's to the low-900's and the school district is just above average. A school district and schools are only as good as what you make of it by being a involved parent, volunteering and staying on top of your child's education.
2006-12-03 01:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're doing too much. You need to slow down. I think you need to check yourself into some kind of hospital. It seems like you are just asking questions for attention. Some questions talk about you don't have money for certain things but you're going to pay $800,000 cash for a house?
2006-12-05 17:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by vanessac2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what do you mean "people like that"???? DO you think that they choose to live in low income homes? I think your snotty daughter probably learned her behavior from her mother!! Instead of laying down 800 grand on a "mansion" Think a little into the future as far as retirement and education for your children. And don't ever judge a family for what kind of home they live in. Please!!!
2006-12-02 23:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by mystratz 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your daughter picked up her bragging rights from you.
Shallow people always like to brag.
I think both of you need to grow up.
2006-12-03 01:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by opel_gt_1970 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not ot brag so much because in a year or two the bank will forclose anyway. I in an apartment complex surrounded by $800,000.00 homes...within 6 months of purchase they're up for sale.
2006-12-02 23:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whatever fits your budget is what counts. Not how much you spend on it!..A house is only walls and floors...a "home" is a family that fills it with love..not the price of a house
2006-12-03 01:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋